Post # 1
Maybe I’m taking things too personally, but I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost six years (engaged for 1.5). Anyway, his youngest bother just got married in Oct. Anyway, she technically is the only “daughter-in-law” in the family now… but my boyfriend’s mom keeps making it a point to tell her — in front of me — that she’s the “favorite” and “No. 1” daughter-in-law. Like wtf. I don’t want to cause drama, so I stayed quiet, but have been fuming. I have been feeling like his family secretly has been throwing in digs to break up up since we got engaged. I don’t know how I should feel about this….
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Post # 2
Um, rude! Unless she calls you the favorite fiancee, that is absolutely not okay!
Post # 3
I think you’re taking it way to personally. My SIL does that with me, I just say … meh you’ve had the title longer but i wear it better. It shut her up about being the first DIL. Are they actively trying to break you two up since the engagement or are you just over analyzing everything?
Post # 4
jtaylor18: I agree its pretty rude to say that in front of you but I can’t help but wonder how attention seeking your future sister-in-law is that your mother-in-law needs to say this in front of you. In any case, as much as it is rude, ignore it.
And look on the bright side: if your MIL already has a favorite, then you don’t have to worry about her being overly involved/pushy in your wedding planning, marriage, or future children, because she’s too preoccupied with her favorite daughter-in-law. The pressure’s off!
Post # 5
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Do you want to be the favorite? I don’t know if that would bother me. You might be making a mountain out of a mole hill on this one
Post # 6
Well, my FMIL probably likes FSIL’s DBF more than she likes me, and that’s fine, but anyone over about 5 years old should know better than to say it out loud.
Post # 7
jtaylor18: She isn’t “technically” the only daughter-in-law, she IS the only daughter-in-law and your FI’s mother is not you MIL – not yet.
That said, maybe your FMIL may be making a dig or Maybe not. If her DIL is the first and only, she is possibly just making a little harmless joke without meaning to hurt or offend you. If she is otherwise good to you, let it go.
If you truly feel that she’s trying to snipe at you, just ignore her. I’m sure there are plenty of snarky things you could say back but why let her know she’s bugging you?