Post # 1
I’d like to know what all of you out there have done regarding this –
I’m getting ready at a hotel the afternoon of my wedding (my apartment looks like a 22 year old guy lives in it…I do not want it to be photographerd) and my bridesmaids and moms will be there with me. They’re getting their makeup done, then I am, then my bridesmaids and I are leaving for a photoshoot with the groom + groomsmen, then my mom is getting her makeup done and my dad is picking her up and taking her to the venue.
Should I ask my MIL if she wants to get her makeup done by my makeup artist? I will not be paying for it, but I thought it might be nice to give her the option of having nice makeup. But maybe I’m being too nice? What have you ladies done?
If you answer yes to that, here’s another question: if she says yes, should I invite her to arrive at the hotel before I leave? I don’t think I really want her there with my mom and best friends as I’m prettying up and getting my dress on. It’s not that I don’t like her, but I want my time getting ready to be with the women I love most, and she’s really not one of them! I guess I could tell her to arrive shortly after I leave – would that be rude? I don’t think so but I’m not sure which is why I’m seeking your input!
Post # 3
I think it would hurt her feeling to ask her there after you already leave … a little like you don’t want to see her, not really the tone I would want to set on my wedding day.
Post # 4
I am just not telling my FMIL we are getting our hair and makeup done, but we don’t really like each other so it was never really an option
Post # 5
I would say if you dont really want her there dont offer… you could risk offending her… I personally LOVELOVELOVE my FMIL and would love to have her there every step of the way… So when I get to that point I will absolutely be inviting her to our house though I know shell want to be at her house with her son and the boys getting ready (and she doesnt need someone to do her hair its super short)… but I think not allowing her to be there while you get ready might be a slam? I could be wrong
Post # 6
If you don’t want her there, don’t extend the offer. Be aware that there will be many situations where you have no choice but to hang around her.
Post # 7
I had no intention of inviting my FMIL, but then she asked if someone would be in the suite to do her hair and I wasn’t fast enough on my feet to say anything but yes. Now I’m thinking about having all the girls go to the salon instead of having the lady come to us because FMIL has typical old lady hair, and I don’t even know what sort of supplies we’d need to do her hair. <sigh>