Post # 1
I need a bit of advice on how to deal with my FMIL. My FH does not have the best relationship his family. My FMIL is somewhat unstable. She makes promises that she NEVER follows through with, she says one thing and does another, and she is not all that responsible for My FH’s younger brothers. There is ALWAYS drama in the family…..I just don’t want to deal with it. I have been with my FH for 7 years, so I’ve known his family for a long time. I don’t have problems with them, but I also don’t want to get sucked into the drama. Here’s the dilemma: I dont want to leave her out completely and start thigns off badly, so how do I involve FMIL in the wedding planning, without giving her too much responsibility. I just don’t want her to say she is going to do something and then not follow through. Plus, some of here suggestions are just tacky. UGHHH……I don’t know how to handle my FMIL! Advice?
Post # 3
Can you take her with you when you go to tastings for the caterer and the cake? When you go to pick out your dress, or try it on, things like that? That way she is involved and giving her opinions on things, but there is no real responsibility there (besides showing up and the right place and time!).
Post # 4
I think mskalinin has the right idea. Include her in wedding events, but not any real responsibility. (That’s what I’m doing with my FMIL, she’s the same as yours!) 😉
Post # 5
Id ask her to come along with you places but you dont have to give her actual duties. Im sure shed be happy just being involved, and being updated on what you guys are doing for the wedding. At least you know that she has a problem following through with things so you know not to rely on her for something important. If you need help with the seating chart on FI’s side of the family, Id ask way in advance!
Post # 6
Love the caterer tasting idea! (I’m going to steal that one for my own difficult mother/FMIL!)
Post # 7
Thank for the advice ladies. I think I will take her to at least a dress fitting if not when i go look for the dress. Also, we are having a mini-destination wedding at a resort a couple of hours away from where we live. My parent have seen the resort but she hasn’t so maybe we will take her up there one weekend and look at florists/other vendors and show her around. I’m feeling slightly better….
Post # 8
Yeah I was thinking the same thing with asking her to go places with you, the dress fitting is perfect, cause you already have the dress and she has no say in the purchase, cause its already bought!
Post # 9
Yes. That’s the way to go. And really that is the fun stuff. Tasting cake…. seeing the pretty dresses.
Will she be really psyched to fashion flowers to the favors? Naaa.
Post # 10
I think it’s really smart to take her with you on a dress fitting or even to visit the venue so she can feel more included. That way, she’ll feel like a part of the process, but you won’t be disappointed if/when she doesn’t follow through with anything.