(Closed) MIL thinks we should open gifts during reception

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’ve never seen this or heard of it.  Maybe if you are having a really small wedding?  Even then, I’d think it was odd.

Post # 4
858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

LOL no to doing it at the reception.

We did a brunch the next morning. It felt weird, but I’m pretty sure it is tradition in some families and sort of common. No one had to be there but us, and they got a free meal out of it!

Post # 5
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

It’s tacky. I dont’ throw that word around either.

Post # 6
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ve never seen this, and I don’t think there would be enough time in a night, given all the other traditions you’d want to fit into those same 5 or 6 hours.

Post # 7
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’ve never seen this before.

We opened ours at a brunch the next morning with some of our guests (mainly family and bridal party).

ETA: Opening everything made it way easier to load it in the car to drive it back to TX from IN! 🙂  Space was at a premium and boxes and bags took up too much room.

ETA2: We didn’t open cards at the brunch (except for those attached to presents – have to identify who they are from!).  That way we weren’t opening envelopes with cash or checks.  We opened those in the car once we were on the road home.

Post # 9
520 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It’s not tacky, it’s just not common. My aunt and uncle had to do it at their wedding many years ago because his mother insisted. No one really does it anymore, if people ever did it often? 

Post # 10
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’ve never seen anyone do that. We opened our presents when we got home after brunch and unloading the truck. We were recording what each present was and from whom on our Excel spreadsheet/guest list so we could send thank you cards properly, I couldn’t imagine doing that in front of our family or guests!

Post # 11
4583 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m with everyone else. I have never seen gifts opened at the wedding reception.

Post # 12
798 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

No no nooooo – i’ve never seen this done before.

One wedding we went too, the bride & groom met at one of the mothers houses the next day to open gifts.  Maybe you could do that at the MIL’s house to appease her?

Post # 13
2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have never seen this at a wedding… and I’ve coordinated a few hundred.  I have seen the occasional present opening at brunch the next morning, but not all of them. 

Sounds like something that may be common for her, but I would just let her know there just isn’t time and you’d hate to lose track of who gave what.

As a PP mentioned – if you do happen to have time – open them in your hotel room if that works out – you’ll save SO MUCH ROOM in packing it all up, just remember to write down who gave you what.

Good luck!

Post # 14
1243 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Dude, that’s a lot of gifts to have to open!  I would be worried about that too.

Here’s the thing: there are people who are going to give you money. Does your Mother-In-Law want you to open envelopes of cash in front of everyone?  I’ve seen this happen at a shower and it is awkward!  Also, some people will have the gifts delivered to your house, some may be backordered on your registry, some may give you gifts when you get home from your honeymoon, 3 months later or NEVER.  If you open gifts at the reception, it could really embarass the people who either didn’t give you something or didn’t give you something to open there.  

I’m not going to say it’s tacky…but I would say that it would be super awkward.  If I were a guest, I would take it as my signal to leave (like you wanted us to leave).  

Post # 15
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’VE SEEN IT DONE!!!!!!!  

My cousins did it at THEIR wedding!!!!!  And I was in middle school, I think.  Heck, I can’t remember WHEN it was, it’s been so long ago! LOL!

I want to say my brother did it to, but I can’t remember.  And that was when I was a junior in high school, lol.  Sad, I know.


Our guest list sits at 200-some, including kids.  I don’t think we’re gonna be interested in opening presents at the wedding.  Not when we’re gonna be more interested in having fun and trying to mingle with everyone possible.  

Post # 16
520 posts
Busy bee

I went to a wedding a loooong time ago……and they did it.  I found it very odd and uncomfortable and awkard.  It “might” be a kind of old school, small town thing………..  But…..no…. 🙂

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