MIL trouble…

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
2037 posts
Buzzing bee

@JKS090614:  Sorry to hear about your MIL troubles, they are the worst!  You can’t talk to this person like you talk to your own Mom, and you don’t want to offend or say the wrong thing I feel your pain!

Have you talked to your FI about it?  Maybe you can ask him to talk to her to gage her excitement of the wedding?  Or adding all the extra guests?  Another thing-is this her only son?  Or maybe the first son getting married?  I’ve totally seen that become a problem.

Good Luck!

 

 

 

 

Post # 5
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2779 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It might be that your MIL is suddenly realizing the gravity that her son has grown up and is moving on. Maybe that’s difficult for her and she’s being emotionally distant because of it. It could also be that she’s just not the kind of lady that’s interested in wedding planning–my own mother is definitely not that kind of woman and I’m sure she wouldn’t be into having wedding conversations with her own daughter, let alone a FDIL. 

I’d keep inviting her and giving her opportunity to be involved in the process, but in a lighthearted, non-pushy way. She’ll come around; she probably just needs time. 

Post # 6
Member
479 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would take her to lunch & talk to her.  She cN only act one of two ways then you’ll know for sure where she stands.  Let her know that there’s a maximum on folks you’ll invite & let her pick.  No stress, but you’ll have to deal with her forever so be sweet but firm.

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