- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
I have two children one from a previous relationship. My ex mil was horrible and made no effort what soever with me. she was very vindictive towards me. Me and her son are no longer together.
My fi and I have been together three years and I have just had a baby. This is my fi families first grandchild so they are very excited. My mother isnt of good health but has babysat twice at my house. My mil has babysat the baby over night once and has taken the baby out to see extended family members, in particular her mam who is a full time carer for her disabled son my mil brother. My mam has made a comment in regards to them taking the baby and not spending time with me and how she was doing what my last mil did.
My current mil has never said mean word towards me or about me and supported me throughtout my relationship and pregnancy . She pushed me to go to the hospital when in labour. She even supported me going to court with my ex in regards to my child as my mam couldnt make due to her ill. She has been nothing but nice and includes my eldest. She has visit me and has stayed for a cuppa. I really dont see the issue in her spending time with the baby as I never had grandparents. My eldest child has spent plenty of time on his own without me being there at my mams. I really dont no what my mams issue is but its just upset me.
Im due to get married and felt part of the family. Something I never felt with my ex. His mother always demanding the baby and did her best to exclude me. However I dont feel it’s the case here. Is my mam right or is it a case of the green eyed monster. I told her if she wanted the baby for an hour or two she could but she says shes not fit enough. I cant win.
She moaned about me leaving the baby who will be one to go away on our honeymoon. Yet she isnt offering to look after her. Her attitude is no one helped me with my kids (her mam went to canada to be a nanny) I feel I just constantly whinged at. She wasnt happy my brothers werent god parents and that the baby was named after her nana (middle name) even though my eldest is named after my dad (middle name)
Advice would be greatly appreciated x