Post # 1
DH and I got married 9 days ago (YAY) and we’re heading to his hometown at the end of June for a mini-honeymoon/vacation/family visit (already way too much to pack in to just a few days).
While talking plans with MIL last night she mentioned that she and FIL wanted to rent a hall while we were there, play our wedding video and host the people who couldn’t make the trip to our wedding (it was a DW for many of our guests but local to us). I don’t really care, but DH is really against the idea and since it’s his mom, he gets to make the call. I don’t really think that very many people would come, but DH doesn’t really like being the centre of attention and all the really important people from that area came to the wedding. Where they’re from, this wouldn’t be an expensive or fancy affair, it’s just not something we really want to do…
How can we decline the offer?
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB
I would probably say <br />” While we appericate the thought, We are not comfortable with having a second reception so soon after our big day. We’d like to take this time to relax and enjoy our honeymoon/vacation with you”
Post # 3
Compromise: maybe a casual dinner in a restaurant where she has substantial input into the guest list, so everyone can gather and celebrate, but no wedding video and no fuss. Maybe a short toast by you or your husband. Tell her you’d feel uncomfortable with a rented hall and showing the video because folks would feel pressured to bring gifts and you’d be happy to celebrate but you want to keep it very informal and casual.
Post # 4
Maybe you could just have a backyard BBQ type gathering, or rent out a pavillion in a park and have lunch there?
Post # 5
Westwood: I second the backyard BBQ. Much more appropriate/low key.