Post # 1
My mother-in-law requested to see me the morning of the wedding. I wanted to spend the morning with my mom and sister and I didn’t want anyone to see me until I was ready. My FI told her what I said and she said that was fine, but now I feel really bad. Am I being silly? She doesn’t have any daughters and was probably just being nice. Should I reach out to her and tell her to stop by my house before my 9:30am hair appointment?
Post # 3
Awww, I’m on the fence with this one…
If she has no daughters I would let her be there. My FMIL will be there while I get ready. My MUA is doing her makeup and my mother’s.
Post # 4
Awww, I would let her see you.
Post # 5
I totally get just wanting your nearest & dearest on the morning but think you should invite her. I’m sure she just wants to play with the girls and what a great opportunity to bond 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
If you get along, I would say to have her drop by early in the morning before you are in your dress. I am planning to do that if my FMIL wants to see me that day before the ceremony.
What if she wants to give you a gift or share a family tradition for the bride with you that morning?
Post # 7
Yeah, you should invite her. My FMIL is coming to the salon with us so she can also get her hair done, and it means a lot to her.
Post # 8
i invited my FMIL to join us in the getting ready room and for hair and makeup if she likes.
she will join, my mom, and 3 BMs.
i felt it was the right thing to do.
Post # 9
I would let her come see you, it’ll probably mean a lot to her.
Post # 11
I’m echoing the same sentiment of the others. Her son is getting married and she is gaining a beautiful daughter. If its in your heart, allow her to take part in these precious moments as they may not come for her again!
Post # 12
I agree with the others, inviting her seems like the nice thing to do.
Post # 13
Have her join in, she probably just feels a little left out and wants to experience something she did not get to do with her own daughters. Plus, it would be one more person to help if needed.
Post # 14
I’ll be the Devil’s Advocate for this one.
If FMIL is super sweet and easygoing, I would just ask her to join you. That would be nice.
However, if FMIL is overbearing or “just too much”, then I wouldn’t ask her. For example, my MIL is very nice but she has a tendency to overshadow my family because she’s very loud/touchy feely/in your face. Mine didn’t ask to see me but if she did, I would probably decline because I wouldn’t want her to overshadow my mother in the moment.
Post # 15
Aww, I’d let her come. I have already told my FMIL that she is welcome to come over with the rest of us girls on the wedding day. My fiancé is an only child, so it’s her only chance!
Post # 16
My Mother in Law wanted to do something special for me the morning off. She invited all the girls involved in the wedding over to the house she was renting and made breakfast for me. It was a very special time. Plus I was able to eat a good meal before the day became very crazy. My mother in law wanted to give me a little something for my honeymoon without having her son around.
I would see her the morning before everything gets crazy. Even if it is just meeting her somewhere for breakfast. She would appreciate it and treasure it just like you would.