(Closed) Mild Dress Dilemma

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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390 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

The only thing my FI has ever said was that he doesn’t like a lot of "stuff" on it.  I didn’t know what I was looking for and found THE dress.  It’s beautiful and looks great on…but it has more "stuff" on it then he prefers (apparently).  He doesn’t want to see it before the wedding day, and I know he will say it looks great, but I’ll admit to being a little nervous about the amount of beading.  It’s not the most bedazzled dress I’ve seen, but it’s not simple either…In the end, I don’t think it will matter.  Get what makes you happy; chances are if it makes you happy, then it will make him happy!  

Post # 4
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37 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Go with your heart’s desire! You’ll be the one in the dress all day and with all the excitement of the day, you’re right, he’ll probably not notice if you’re in a mermaid vs your beautiful lace. I do, however, take into consideration my FI’s opinion…but in the end, I have to feel the best! Same goes for you — I can just tell by your message that you really are desiring the lace type dress. That means to me you should just do it! Go with the lace

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Go with your heart’s desire.  I didn’t look at styles of dresses he said he didn’t like and I REALLY regret that now because I ended up with a dress he barely noticed and that I really didn’t like.

Post # 6
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11 posts
Newbee

I say just go to a store. Even if it’s too early! Take a buddy on your lunch hour and hop over somewhere simple like David’s Bridal where it’s easy to get an appointment or wherever! Like most people, you go in thinking you want something and you end up realizing it doesn’t look good or you actually like something else you never thought you would! After I felt a little silly for spending so long thinking about it and looking at pictures when it was soooo different once I got there and started trying them on. I think a quick visit would help you to see what you really like and then you can do some more browsing from there.

Post # 8
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142 posts
Blushing bee

Maybe you could even find a mermaid-shaped gown with lace?  That way you have the best of both worlds… lots of all-over lace for the romantic factor, but one that will also make your man happy!

Post # 9
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220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I didn’t even think about him having an opinion on the dress when I selected mine.  It just didn’t occur to me.  After I selected the dress, he said something like I hope it’s not one that looks like . . . Fortunately we were on the same page (at least I think).  I think the dress is one area where the bride should have free reign.

Post # 10
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216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Outdoor ceremony, banquet hall reception

I agree with the other girls- get what you want! If you’re happy and feeling beautiful in your dress, then that’s what your fiance will see. 🙂

Post # 11
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327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Holy Family Catholic Church, reception: National Infantry Museum

I agree, get what you want. 

Post # 12
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796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Get what you want! The dress that you feel the best in will also be the one you look the best in, and he will love it!

Post # 13
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752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’d say you should go with what you love! He’s more likely to remember your incredible smile and happy glow in a dress he wouldn’t have picked himself than he is to remember you phoning it in and trying to be happy with a dress that would have been his top choice.

My fiance is anti-beading and crystals, but my gown still has a little bit of embellishment on it, because it made me happy. Granted, I didn’t even try anything on that was all-over-embellished, but that was partially because it’s not my style and partially because I knew I could find something I loved that wouldn’t be too flashy to him. 

Find something you love, and he’ll think you’re beautiful either way!

Post # 14
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182 posts
Blushing bee

Maybe you can find a compromise? Otherwise get what you want, becasue in the long run he most likely won’t notice.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

Get what you want.  Your FI will remember that you looked fabulous and felt confident in your dress!

The only caveat is that if your FI said he HATED a specific type of dress, I might stay away from it.  But it doesn’t sound like that is the case.

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