Post # 1
So my Fiance has been in the military 20 years and we have a military ball to attend where they are honoring him for his service. Its the last weekend in August. So Fiance has been in and out of town traveling with work and casually tells me that I will need a dress for this event by the end of August.
My problem is that Im short and dont look like a supermodel. I dont have a clue about what kind of dress would look good on me. I have tried on a few and the best input my Fiance can give me is that I look beautiful in them all. Of course he is a guy and doesnt understand that of course he sees me as beautiful in them all.
I have curves and Im also not fat but im not thin either. Are there any bees who have had this issue and can offer me some advice. I swear I just want to tell him I dont want to go at this point but its his big night.
Is there styles I should look for that would suit my big rear end? LOL
Post # 3
You need to find out from your fiance what the dresscode is for the event, whether white tie or black tie. Typically, he will be wearing his dress uniform so you won’t want a color that clashes with that. I have been to one military ball in my life and some girls dressed extremely formally and some less formally. I went kind of in the middle with a floor-length strapless gown but it was not over the top. Just make sure to keep it classy, I would really not recommend anything shorter than tea-length for a military ball. Like you, I am average in the weight department and quite short. A dress with a fuller skirt can help nip you in at the waist, but you don’t want it to be so pouffy that it totally overwhelms your short frame. Just pick your favorite asset and play that up. I love my boobs, lol, so I made sure my dress bared just a little bit of cleavage.
Additionally, asymmetrical dresses (the one-shoulder ones) are really fashionable right now and can also help draw attention away from a thicker frame. I’m glad I’m not model-skinny, but it does make dress shopping hard!
Post # 4
Oh, and a dress with a full skirt will also help disguise your rear end issue- I have the same problem! Anything super tight will play it up, and while that is good for the club, I like a bigger skirt for formal events.
Post # 5
and…I think I posted before. check out rent the runway…you can rent gorgeous gowns there for a fraction of their price. I saw a few reviewers that went to military balls. that had rented gowns through rent the runway.
I had a really good experience with it for my bridal shower. They give you two sizes as backup and then you just pop the dresses into an envelope they provide for you when you are done with them. I’m also doing it for my rehearsal dinner, a black tie wedding event, and I rented a pearl bracelet from them for my wedding day =)
Post # 6
Here’s a flowy gown that retails for $895 that can be rented for $125.
It looks flowy at the bottom so it would hide a larger rear =)
Post # 7
Ahhh, for some reason my post didn’t go through (maybe because of the link) I had to wear a gown recently for something and I went through Rent the Runway. I wore the Halston Heritage Singapore Gown. I’m a size 10, 34Dirty Delete, which I would consider somewhat curvy. LOVED the dress.
@HollyCJ: Great minds think alike! That’s the dress I wore.
Post # 8
For your frame, the best bets are gowns that have a true waist or slightly drop waist (you probably want to steer clear of mermaid silhouettes), and an a-line skirt.
But the most important thing in the whole world is that you stand up straight and smile. I’ve seen girls in formal gowns who might have looked lovely, but they were tugging at their strapless dresses, or were hunched over with their arms in tight holding them up, or just had their shoulders slumped. Wear something that does’t wear you, and look confident in it, and you’ll look great.
Post # 9
@hotchildinthecity: wow I think the dress I just posted was the Halston Heritage Singapore Gown =)
Post # 10
Its a formal black tie ball. He will be wearing his dress blacks. I was thinking navy or midnight blue so that it wouldnt be to different from him. I just wasnt sure about style. I want to wear a floor length but I was afraid that a full skirt would actually make me look bigger.
I hate shopping and dread dress shopping. I havent even gone wedding dress shopping and we are 9 months from the wedding because I have been putting it off.
I love my curves but after three children, a broken hip from combat in Iraq, and multiple surgeries my body isnt perfect and I want him to be proud when we go. Its actually my introduction to the command structure. He thought it was a good idea to introduce me since we will be sending save the date cards and invitations to a few of them.
Post # 11
@TexasSpringBride: I think something like this would be stunning and it has the full length and color you’re looking for. http://www.lightinthebox.com/Sheath-Column-One-Shoulder-Floor-length-Chiffon-Evening-Dress_p247500.html
It’s not immodest, but the sparkley detail at the top draws the eye away from anything you consider a problem area and the flowy skirt will skim over your bottom half.
Just keep in mind that alterations will almost certainly be necessary if you’re super short- I’m 5’2″ and I have to get every single dress altered.
Post # 12
I actually think that the last one posted by,
@tngirl92: is absolutely gorgeous. 🙂
Post # 13
Do not forget to bring a shawl or bolero to cover your shoulders during dinner. My husband is an officer, and I’ve attended many mess dinners, balls and other formal functions (approximately 10 per year), and you do not want to risk being turned away. I see this happen on a regular basis, and I fault both the military member who failed to inform his guest and the woman in question as she failed to properly inform herself.