Post # 1
Ok so im new to blogging… Anyways, my fiance and i are both in the air force. i am from pittsburgh, pa and he is from dallas, tx. Neither of our families can afford a big “to-do” wedding and we dont want one. What we want is simple, romantic and cheap.
Obviously the first dilema is that we are from diferent sides of the country so we can’t have both families. We are now stuck between having the wedding in pittsburgh with my family with a justice of the peace or just “eloping” so to say to the bahamas and having it on the beach by ourselves.
I would love to have the wedding in pittsburgh with my family but am nervous because my parents are alcoholics and my family is kind of crazy. I think im scared that they might mess it up. but on the other hand if i have it up there my family could be with me and support me and my dad can five me away.
My fiance is open to either and just wants to say “i do”. i know it shouldnt be hard to decide but i want it to be right the first time….. please help and give me your thoughts
Post # 3
I don’t understand why your parents or his can’t take a trip out for the wedding. I would just have a simple justic of the peace ceremony with both parents and immediate families only. That way you don’t have to worry about your family getting drunk at the wedding.
Post # 4
Hi! My man is in the military also and we are in CA and our family is on the other side of the country so we’re going through a similar situation. We decided to have the wedding HERE in CA!!!! The people who mean the most to us and want to see us get married will be coming out here and anyone else that doesn’t want to travel is missing out. What you have to remember is this is yours and your FH day, NOT anyone elses especially if you two are the ones paying for it. I worry from time to time about who will and won’t come but then I stop myself and remind myself that the main people who I want there as guests I know for a fact will be there (our parents and my best friend) and that is the most important thing. It’s a lot easier taking care of things where you are currently living. You can have a really romantic, intimate reception at a restaurant with a private room. Only have enough alcohol for dinner and toasting. Then you won’t have to worry about anyone being unhappy and drunk and embarassing 🙂 haha I hope this helps hun. Good luck.
Post # 5
My fiance is in the Navy, and he’s stationed in Washington state, while I’m living in Oklahoma. Our families are both in Dallas, so we’re doing two ceremonies on the cheap cheap! We’re getting legally married just the two of us in Washington state to help with the paperwork involved with a civilian marrying a military member. Then we’re coming home to do a small ceremony and reception with our families. We’ve already decided that they’ll be a month apart and we won’t wear rings after our civil ceremony. Only after our “real” wedding with our families in Texas would we wear rings, or wear the wedding attire.
I would suggest trying to do something like that. Make it legal yourselves here in the states and then having a party in one place or the other with everyone else. People will make it if they are important and love you. They’ll find a way. 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 6
My family lives up North and my Fiance family is in the West. He is stationed in MD and that is where we are getting married. It was too hard trying to please everyone, so we opted for what WE wanted. I say, do what makes you most comfortable. If you are going to miss having your dad give you away, then that’s what you should do. If you are worried about your parents drinking, then perhaps do what BusyBride2Be suggested and limit the alcohol volume. All in all it’s your day, so you two should be happy! Good luck!