- 9 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
My FI and I are both in the Army. For those of you who are at all familiar with military dining-in customs, you have seen the table for POWs and MIA soldiers. Here’s the ceremony that goes along with it: (sorry its long!)
"As you entered the dining area, you may have noticed a table at the front, raised to call your attention to its purpose — it is reserved to honor our missing loved ones [or missing comrades in arms, for veterans].
… I would like to explain the meaning of the items on this special table.
The table is round — to show our everlasting concern for our missing men.
The tablecloth is white — symbolizing the purity of their motives when answering the call to duty.
The single red rose, displayed in a vase, reminds us of the life of each of the missing, and the[ir] loved ones and friends of these Americans who keep the faith, awaiting answers.
The vase is tied with a red ribbon, symbol of our continued determination to account for our missing.
A slice of lemon on the bread plate is to remind us of the bitter fate of those captured and missing in a foreign land.
A pinch of salt symbolizes the tears endured by those missing and their families who seek answers.
The glass is inverted — to symbolize their inability to share this evening’s [morning’s/day’s] toast.
The chairs are empty — they are missing.
Let us now raise our water glasses in a toast to honor America’s POW/MIAs and to the success of our efforts to account for them.
It’s a somber ceremony, but I am thinking about including it at some point in the reception. What do you think? Is it too sad, serious, and depressing? What about just including the table and a page with the above typed out? FI is deploying shortly after the wedding, and for some reason, this just keeps popping up in my head when I picture the reception. Also, at least 6 of our friends will be unable to attend the wedding, since they’ll be in Iraq or Afghanistan.