Military marriage abroad & future ceremony etiquette..?

posted 3 years ago in Military
Post # 3
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222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@ZuuZuu:  CONGRATS! Welcome to the hive.

Call it whatever you want to call it. There’s nothing wrong with addressing your future ceremony and reception as your “wedding”. It is a wedding, though it is not the day that the two of you have entered marriage, that doesn’t make it any less of a celebration of your marriage and that is one of the definitions of a wedding. Other ideas could be Martrimonial Union, Marriage Celebration, Joining of lives & love, etc. Or once again, stamp it with WEDDING! Lol. I personally tried, “vow renewal”… Watch and see, all of your friends/family will ask you, “when is your wedding, where is your wedding, what time is your wedding”. Your guests, vendors, etc. won’t care what you call it, they’ll call it a wedding.

Announcements are nice, if it’s something you want to do. How about an announcement & save the date all in one? You could do something that announces your legal union & expresses that a ceremony/reception will be held on X date?

Just don’t let your plans fall by the wayside, make sure to make it a priority to have your special day with your family/friends IF you really want to. You’ll encounter so many military couples who only had a JP ceremony. I’m sure many are happy with it, but many are regretful, don’t be one of those.

Some sites that have inexpensive announcements, save the dates, invitations are:

weddingpaperdivas, zazzle, ann’s bargain bridal, invitations by dawn

 

 

Post # 5
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305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

My husband and I did something similar. We didn’t want to lose out on our hometown wedding, so we continued with the planning and we started calling it the “wedding celebration.” We had the pastor do a simple blessing of the church, so it was very similar to vows but instead ‘i will take this man’ it was ‘i have taken this man’ and so forth. Everyone still loved it, and I think they appreciated that we didn’t cover up the original marriage at all. Good luck with everything! Keep us up to date

Post # 6
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1666 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@ZuuZuu:  First, congratulations on your marriage!

My parents eloped and had a religious ceremony and reception about 8 months later. On the invitations, they worded it as a “celebration of their marriage” as opposed to a wedding – thats just how my family is though. Maybe you could ask your parents for suggestions on how to word it when the time comes?

As for announcements, I think that would be kind of sweet. If its something you guys are interested in, then I say go for it. Letting word spread through the grapevine could work as well though, so its really what you two feel is best for your situation.

Post # 7
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222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@ZuuZuu:  You’re welcome, that’s the spirit! I hope it all works out well. There are sites that you can use to find vendors in different locations: thumbtack, gigmasters, gigsalad, eventective and weddingbee has it’s own vendors section as well. Whenever you contact vendors be sure to ask if they offer military discounts.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I wouldn’t even bother with a formal announcement if you’re going to have a wedding ceremony stateside (or whatever country you live in). It’ll just be confusing for people.

My husband and I did the same thing when he was stationed in Hawaii. We never ended up bothering with the “real” wedding even though we planned to at the time. But we just kept putting it off, kept not wanting to spend that kind of money at the moment, etc…

Have you thought about moving to his duty station? You can now do that on the military’s dime.

Post # 12
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1666 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@ZuuZuu:  I think that wording sounds very very sweet. 🙂 Good luck to you both!

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