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I haven't moved in with him yet, but we will also live off base and I'll be working, so I doubt I'll be making friends with many of them. I've met a lot of the unit wives and haven't been very impressed so far. And that's too bad, since it's useful support during a deployoment.
Not speaking for myself personally but two very close friends are married to marines. One lives on base and doesn't have a single military friend but she is very introverted and not very social, on the other hand my friend who lives off the base has tons, she's always telling me the things she's doing. It's completely different for the two of them, but I think its also because of their personalities.
I have a couple, but only because they were girls I was friends with in high school and they happen to have married military men since then. I tend to avoid the military wife sect, things get a a little cliquey and high school from what i've seen.
My husband emailed me tonight and asked if I wanted to go out with a few of his co-workers and their wives when he gets home. I'm not going to lie- I'm a little nervous. :) Sometimes I feel like a social recluse (probably because I am though)
@maureen9004:You've described my worst nightmare, but it's inevitable. Hope it went ok.
@starrynight: It's not happening until they come home from deployment- it's my nightmare as well :) Glad to hear I'm not the only person who feels this way. It's not them, I'm sure they're all really nice- i'm just not a real social person and it makes me nervous my husband works with these people so I have to edit myself a little.
My BFF (since grade school) is the only other military SO friend that I have. My husband and I are currently in an LDR, so I haven't had the chance to make any military wife friends. I think sometimes this makes it a lot harder because I don't have people I can relate to. I definitely have a good support system of friends, don't get me wrong, just none that know exactly what I'm going through. Sigh....
I have a couple friends that a military spouses, but not because I met them through my fiance's co-workers. I don't know or hang out with any of the wives of people in his unit. We live an hour away from the base, so I'm never involved with the stuff going on up there, I feel a little guilty but he keeps assuring me that I'm not missing anything.
My fiance just deployed last week (for the 2nd time) :( It stinks having them gone
I've made friends with a couple. And it helps a lot! Now that he's gone especially, it's amazing to have a good friend who understands completely. I even had a friend go with me to see him off, she is an incredible incredible person for that. We're all in the same boat, and reaching out is a great help.
EDIT: I forgot to mention that I don't live with him. I met them when I went down to visit and exchanged email addresses.
Not yet, but I am sure I will after we PCS to Oklahoma. We still live in my hometown so I have some of my old friends...well I think. This wedding has kind of showed me who my friends really are. lol.
@edisonsgirl: weddings do that. They bring out the best and worst in people.
Nope, not a one. All of my friends are completely foreign to the military spouse thing. I have a lot of family members in the military, but it's totally different when it's your own husband. It would be nice to have some milspouse friends though. But we don't live on base, and we maybe never will. We'll see where the next few years take us, but personally I'm ready to stay in our hometown for a while...over the past year we've moved twice. BARF!!
none of my friends from home are military, but most of friends where we currently live are! my fiance & i both live off base. i've taken it upon myself to be social and meet people. i'm involved in our spouses group, a book club and try to attend squadron functions with my fiance. i think it's important to reach out & connect with other spouses/SO's that are in the same position. i'm currently in the middle of a deployment and i'm glad i have some friends who have been through it that i can lean on for support who understand exactly what i'm going through!
My husbands in the Canadian military but I know I dont have many friends on base. I find it really hard to get in with the other military moms and wives - they all seem to have their own groups. I have met some friendly wives, but none that I actually hang out with. Its hard because I miss all my university friends back home. I go to the mom groups and stuff up here but I find I get flustered. As soon as I talk about the degree I am finishing off none of them seem to want to talk to me. Oh well. This year is my last year of university - I figure once I am done and working I will meet more people at work lol.
I have about 2 friends that are military, the rest are not. They are great, but I turn to those that are in the military for when he is deployed. My friends that aren't don't understand what I mean when I say I can't talk to him for however long. When I'm worried, I turn to the mil.
I'm only very close to a military girlfriend but she lives across the country. The military girlfriends/wives I know of in this city, I don't talk to. I don't feel like talking about the army 24/7, it's bad enough my FH talking about it constantly.
@s_h_e_l_b_s: are you on/by a canadian base? which one?
Most of my friends are active duty (Navy), I'm friends/aaquaintances with the wives, gf's, FI's etc... of those friends- some of the wives and gf's are also active duty. I was friends with a group of Navy wives, but it didn't work out so well with this particular group- I found that they were very clingy and often very mean spirited and negative- not all military wives are like this, however it seems to be quite common from my experiences and the experiences of others who have ended up in similar situations. I think many females in general can be catty, particularly in large groups. :P I'm moving back to VA Beach in the next couple of months, FI is getting his orders soon to the Truman. I love VA Beach so I'm very happy to be going back. What branch is your SO in? What do you think of VA Beach and the surrounding area?
My newest friend is married to a co-worker of my FI (when he is doing his "day job).
It's great because shes been through deployments and is really understanding of what it's like.
All the rest of my friends are civilian and have no idea.
Plus my new military friend is more at the same life phase I am (gettin' married and having babies) my other friends are a bit more... carefree still.
I did when we were in Hawaii, but now... no one yet. I hope to meet some eventually, but living off base makes it tough. Actually, if we moved away now, I wouldn't be losing any friends! How sad is that? I have zero new friends out here. Usually I'm super outgoing, too. Ah, well.
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I was curious if you ladies have a lot of friends who are also military spouses? We live off base and I'm busy- I don't really know any other military spouses. Just curious :)