Post # 1
Hello Military spouse Bee’s!
My SO is away for training and won’t be back for months, thank God he’s still stateside…I’m am terribly bored, and I have no motivation to do anything since he just left a few days ago. Tv dinners, just watching TV, sleeping on the couch…I have a few plans here and there to go to happy hour with some girlfriends. I’m hoping that this is just a slump that goes away in the next couple of weeks.
Post # 3
@lina010: (hugs) I HATED the forst few weeks (well all of it actually, but it got easier) Though im technically not a military spouse *anymore*.. i was a military GF for 4 years when DH was in the USMC.. now he works out of town, not as bad but im still alone for a majority of the time so i feel your pain..
On DH’s first deployment to “keep busy” i was in school but also got really involved in a community organization that did support the troops projects! I ended up sitting on the board for 2 years 🙂 We sent packages (everything we sent was donated by the communicty) to DH’s platoon as well as other platoons who had someone from our community deployed, we supported a “military family” that had a parent deployed for the holidays: gift cards to grocery stores for dinner and presents for the children and a couple for the spouse. We also did a few events and raised money for charities helping homeless women and provided a scholarship contest for high school students.
You will find a groove and figure out things to keep you busy!!
Post # 4
@Kandiss16: Thank you! There’s hope!
Post # 5
@lina010: I get like that too, in fact my FI is away for school until right before the wedding!! But work keeps me busy and I have been doing lots of wedding DIY stuff (my programs are turning out to be way more of a project than I had envisionsed!) I have been going to the the gym more too, and getting involved in some classes there.
Post # 6
The best thing to do is to find something that is enriching to you. Whether it be joing FRG, getting active in your church, working out, reading a novel. whatever. Make a while hes away to do list. The last lthing u wanna do is sit around all lonely and bored. the first few days its always like that for me I need a day to collect myself when he leaves. After that you just gotta do it movin. My thing everytime he leaves is losing weight. Its always easier when hes away.lol
Post # 7
I will be getting married in 15 days and relocating from Texas to Camp Lejeune. My fiance is deploying soon after, so I won’t have too many connections there yet. Thank God I am keeping my current job (working virtually, which will allow me to travel back home too). I plan on keeping busy with work, trying to make friends, and possibly getting a dog! He may also come home to find our house looking completely different than it did before he left 😉
Post # 8
@ourlovesong: If you don’t have kids, I HIGHLY recommend the facebook group “Camp Lejeune Childfree Ladies,” it’s the only way I’ve managed to meet anyone else here without kids! And even if you do have children, there are about a billion fb groups with moms setting up play dates! That’s great that you’re able to continue with your job! Message me if you’d like to get lunch when you’re down here, I can always use some more friends 🙂
OP- I keep myself busy with school (19 credit hours at a time but I’m graduating in May, YAY!), I got a part time job at a gym so I end up working out a lot, and I decorated ALL THE THINGS hahaha. It sucks, but there are definitely ways to make it go faster.
Also, Doctor Who.
Post # 9
@lina010: I always find that the shorter seperations are harder due to less time to get into a schedule. I try and pick up hobbies when my SO is away, things like: crochet, knitting, 3d oragami, sewing, cooking, baking, and other fun things. It gives him something to look forward to (he loves seeing my new skills) and it gives me something to be proud of 🙂
For me seperations works like this: first three/four weeks I am completely unapproachable and out of it. Then mid-seperation (depending on how long our seperation was) I am doing great because I have a routine and the days pass a little faster. After we have gotten past most of the time apart I end up getting to that depressed and upset stage again (usually three/two weeks before he comes home). Good news is that there is a hello at the end of it all <3
Post # 10
There is always things to do to keep busy around here. My husband and I are avid gamers and readers, so that is first and foremost in our time wasting schedule.
He’s gone more than he’s home, but for short periods at a time. He’ll be gone three weeks out of every month. Mostly gaming and reading, though.