Post # 1
Yesterday I went to the wedding shower of one of my best friends, for which I am a bridesmaid. It was a flawless event with one huge, irritating exception. Her future MIL was overheard making several rude comments about how she doesn’t have high hopes that she’ll consider the bride a daughter because “brides and mother-in-laws are not meant to get along.”
She continued to say that she’s “SOOOO grateful” she never has to talk to her ex-MIL anymore (divorce) and that any bride-to-be without a future MIL should consider herself lucky.
Here’s why this is so bad:
1. The bride — who obviously hoped for a civil relationship with her — heard all of this and must feel awful about their current and future relationship.
2. Me and my SO’s sister-in-law were sitting at the table with her, feeling that much worse that we will never have the opportunity to bond with a MIL. She passed when my SO was 10 and we both wish everyday that we’d gotten the chance to love and know her.
Seriously, how self-absorbed can you be? Think before you speak…although I’m sure that wouldn’t have made a difference in her case.
Post # 3
Ouch…that’s an awful thing to say, especially at your FDIL’s bridal shower. Those kinds of comments are ones that you keep to yourself, or say in private to your friends if you feel the need to get them off your chest. But saying it at a bridal shower is just rude.
Post # 4
Wow. I would be devastated if I overheard my FMIL say that! She’s going to be my future children’s grandmother so, YES, we should get along!!
Post # 5
I can kinda relate… just found out my FMIL isn’t coming to my bridal shower next month.
Post # 6
That woman is a piece of work. She couldn’t keep her mouth shut for a couple of hours????
Post # 8
Gah!! I tell myself I won’t be this way when my children marry. What is it when these broads get to MIL status they think it’s ok to fill the bitch role? and lose any filter/etiquette? I’ve wondered about this and is it the older generation? Or will we have to resist this tendency ourselves someday. I would like to think not…
Post # 9
Ugh, way to live up to the typical Mother-In-Law stereotype.
Post # 10
She is probably just having her woman is taking my baby boy away from me moments.
Sounds like something my FMIL would say, mostly because no one is good enough for her baby boy and for some reason she thinks it necessary to complete for his attention? One minute she is calling me family and giving me gifts the next she is insulting me and saying her son can get any woman he wants. At the end of this I am sure the only person she really embarrassed was herself.
Post # 11
Ouch. Is this woman related to my MIL? People asked her if she was excited about the wedding, or if she and I got along and talked frequently, and the usual sorts of shower small-talk. Her responses? Not particularly excited, not a fan of the wedding really, no we don’t talk, no not excited to have a DIL.
Talk about living “down” to expectations! I’ll never understand why in-laws sometimes feel this strange, knee-jerk antipathy toward their childrens’ spouses. Boo on the lot of them.
Post # 12
That is terrible. If my FMIL said that to me I honestly might have to leave the room. It would upset me that much. Poor thing, I really hope she is close to her own mother so she at least has that.
Post # 13
@MapleMoose: I hadn’t even thought of that part- hah! She’s basically bitching about how bad MILs are and then she’s BEING ONE OF THEM. Guess she hasn’t wrapped her head around that yet.
@Mrs.LetsGoPens: Her own mother is amazing, so I am glad she has that. She deserves better!
@ieatunicorns: She spent the rest of the time telling lies about the groom’s dad…so no, I guess she couldn’t!