(Closed) MILs and BAD shower etiquette!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

Ouch…that’s an awful thing to say, especially at your FDIL’s bridal shower. Those kinds of comments are ones that you keep to yourself, or say in private to your friends if you feel the need to get them off your chest. But saying it at a bridal shower is just rude. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wow. I would be devastated if I overheard my FMIL say that! She’s going to be my future children’s grandmother so, YES, we should get along!!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I can kinda relate… just found out my FMIL isn’t coming to my bridal shower next month. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

That woman is a piece of work. She couldn’t keep her mouth shut for a couple of hours????

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

wow… that is horrible!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Gah!! I tell myself I won’t be this way when my children marry. What is it when these broads get to MIL status they think it’s ok to fill the bitch role? and lose any filter/etiquette? I’ve wondered about this and is it the older generation? Or will we have to resist this tendency ourselves someday. I would like to think not…

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Ugh, way to live up to the typical Mother-In-Law stereotype. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

She is probably just having her woman is taking my baby boy away from me moments.

Sounds like something my FMIL would say, mostly because no one is good enough for her baby boy and for some reason she thinks it necessary to complete for his attention? One minute she is calling me family and giving me gifts the next she is insulting me and saying her son can get any woman he wants.  At the end of this I am sure the only person she really embarrassed was herself. 

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Ouch. Is this woman related to my MIL? People asked her if she was excited about the wedding, or if she and I got along and talked frequently, and the usual sorts of shower small-talk. Her responses? Not particularly excited, not a fan of the wedding really, no we don’t talk, no not excited to have a DIL.

Talk about living “down” to expectations! I’ll never understand why in-laws sometimes feel this strange, knee-jerk antipathy toward their childrens’ spouses. Boo on the lot of them.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That is terrible. If my FMIL said that to me I honestly might have to leave the room. It would upset me that much. Poor thing, I really hope she is close to her own mother so she at least has that. 

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