Post # 1
So my FMIL stopped by today because she was passing through town, which is cool she does this every couple months. I told her hello but I had plans so we talked for a few minutes and then I had to leave.
My FI calls me later stressed out because she was telling him she thought it was crazy to be asking people to spend money to go to our wedding (in las vegas). SHe went on to tell him it was ridiculous for us to accept money from my dad for our wedding, and that we were grown people and should take care of ourselves. She also told us not to ask her or his grandparents (who have PLENTY of money) for money either. We have not asked a single person for money.
She told my poor FI, “Well, I hope I can go”….WHAT?! She is not loaded, we know, but she CAN take this trip, she goes on elaborate vacations every year.
I wish so bad I was there when she was telling him this, she would never say this to my face. Thankfully, my FI is a very reasonable person, unlike his mother. We have no plans to change our location. We know that the people we want to be there the most will come, this is something we thought of before we picked Vegas. But I really did not think his mother would react this way. We knew his very old grandparents would most likely not go, they are such homebodies, but we NEVER would have thought his own MOTHER, would not go to her only child’s wedding. She is the only person who has reacted this way.
Anyone else have crazy FMIL? Or anyone have ppl dissing your destination wedding?
Post # 3
She probably was caught off guard and upset it was not what she wanted. When she said she may not be able to go, she was probably looking for a reaction. I doubt she will really not end up going. I dont know her, but that would be crazy!
Post # 4
My MIL is batshit crazy. She’s a sweet woman, but she is seriously mentally unstable. She tells me all the time that she never wanted to get married, and never have kids…Yet she is married to my FIL and she gave birth to MY HUSBAND!
She’s just weird. She and FIL don’t get along and fight in front of people and it makes us uncomfortable. Last time I saw her, the last thing she said to me (after a spat with FIL) was “if it weren’t too late, I’d tell you not to get married.” WTF!!
You are NOT alone in the land of (F)MIL drama. The best part of being married is you don’t have to suck up to them anymore. You just have to tolerate them.
Don’t listen to her. You’ll have a fabulous Vegas wedding, and she can’t stop you!
Post # 5
Haha QueenBecca037, i totally hear you.
She had known for awhile now where our wedding would be, and it was today she went got all mean about it. His family is not loving, at all. they dont really show emotions, or get excited about things. my poor FI, he never had a graduation party of any kind, no birthday parties, I have no idea how he turned out so sweet and thoughful!
I know i am not alone, but it still gets me so mad!!!!
Post # 6
Well, I’m just coming on here to say there is hope. My FMIL at one time was public enemy #1. She made my and FI’s life miserable for quite some time. Now, 2 yrs later, she is an ally and friend. Yes, she is still a little whacky, but she supports us and loves us. She no longer causes unnecessary drama and has done a total 180 degree turnaround. I hope it’s the same for you. I neer backed down or let her take control. She just saw that we were in love and we are adults and somehow came to accept us and our decisions. Stick to your guns and she will come around.
Post # 7
My FIL didn’t come to our destination wedding because he didn’t want to fly and is a homebody too. Although we were disappointed, it didn’t bother me personally as long as it didn’t bother DH.
My MIL is tolerable but she has her moments that I can’t stand. But it’s true, once you’re married, you don’t have to care if they don’t like you anymore.
Post # 8
@QueenBecca: LOL! “the best part of being married is that you don’t have to suck up to them anymore…” That seriously cracked me up. 🙂
Post # 9
Yup. My FSIL couldn’t come; FI and her discussed and it was all fine. My FMIL took me by surprise one day while no one else was in the room, telling me that FI can’t get married without his sister there. I mean, what am I supposed to say? We took this decision together and FSIL is fine with it?? !