Mind; boggled.

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
4441 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Artificial-Sweetener:  NOOOOO You’re not crazy.  Being in someone’s wedding is a huge expense for a good friend, let alone a stranger.  Just because your FI is in the wedding does not mean you have to be.


Guy’s don’t get it, this poor bride must just not have a lot of friends?

Post # 4
3128 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I think it is okay to decline but I neccessarily wouldn’t tell that them that is why. Perhaps they feel closer to you do than you do to them. Maybe they see it as an opportnity to grow closer to you. Maybe they don’t have any friends. I would just say “I feel honored that you want me to be a part of your special day, but I have to decline” and leave it at that.

Post # 5
2400 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Honestly, I wouldn’t want to spend money on a dress, shoes, hair, make up, blah blah blah if I weren’t close to them. I mean if DH is then fine, HE can be in the wedding but I would respectfuly decline. Your not crazy. Boy and girl are cray cray.

Post # 7
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Artificial-Sweetener:  they probably want an even number of bridesmaids and groomsmen, and needed you in there as a place holder…

Post # 9
2319 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You’re not crazy!

Post # 10
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow. No thanks! That’s a huge expense and a lot of time taken up, for people you don’t even know all that well? I would send my regrets.

Post # 11
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Wait…so the bride didn’t even ask you herself? Weird!

Post # 12
1327 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

You’re not crazy!!!  This happened to my friend…she said yes, there was tons of drama, and in the end after shelling out for the ugly dress she ended up not being in the wedding (placeholders aren’t needed once someone better becomes available). 

Explain to FI how much in involved, both time and money, to be a bridesmaid.  He probably doesn’t realize.   

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