Post # 1
Ok so my FI just texted me: “Oh ya, I forgot to tell you, girl and boy want us to be in their wedding”. Ummm I NEVER talk to these people, I don’t particularly like them and by no means am I friends with them. FI is friends with boy, but I am definitely not friends with either. WTH?? I’m so confused as to why someone would want me to be a bridesmaid when I don’t even talk to them?
I told him to tell her I don’t feel comfortable being a part of their wedding since we are not close.
The icing on the cake?… FI thinks I’m being rude!
Am I crazy here?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Artificial-Sweetener: NOOOOO You’re not crazy. Being in someone’s wedding is a huge expense for a good friend, let alone a stranger. Just because your FI is in the wedding does not mean you have to be.
Guy’s don’t get it, this poor bride must just not have a lot of friends?
Post # 4
I think it is okay to decline but I neccessarily wouldn’t tell that them that is why. Perhaps they feel closer to you do than you do to them. Maybe they see it as an opportnity to grow closer to you. Maybe they don’t have any friends. I would just say “I feel honored that you want me to be a part of your special day, but I have to decline” and leave it at that.
Post # 5
Honestly, I wouldn’t want to spend money on a dress, shoes, hair, make up, blah blah blah if I weren’t close to them. I mean if DH is then fine, HE can be in the wedding but I would respectfuly decline. Your not crazy. Boy and girl are cray cray.
Post # 6
@MissTatas: I don’t see how she could feel close to me at all. I don’t think I have even seen her in 7 years!… I’m just a little weirded out that FI doesn’t seem to think it’s odd at all.
Post # 7
@Artificial-Sweetener: they probably want an even number of bridesmaids and groomsmen, and needed you in there as a place holder…
Post # 8
@Double_rainbow: LOL fabulous. Let me go ahead and spend tons of money to be your placeholder. :/
I think you might be right.
Post # 10
Wow. No thanks! That’s a huge expense and a lot of time taken up, for people you don’t even know all that well? I would send my regrets.
Post # 11
Wait…so the bride didn’t even ask you herself? Weird!
Post # 12
You’re not crazy!!! This happened to my friend…she said yes, there was tons of drama, and in the end after shelling out for the ugly dress she ended up not being in the wedding (placeholders aren’t needed once someone better becomes available).
Explain to FI how much in involved, both time and money, to be a bridesmaid. He probably doesn’t realize.