Post # 1
Please see previous board, sorry Im cross. So my future sister in law bought the same dress 3mths after I wore it. Ok Im over it. But then she procedded to say how she would have done it differently, eg, wore a veil, different earrings,hairstyle etc. Its maggie sottero bernadette. The final nail in the coffin was when she asked me what size my dress was, and when I told her she said, Yeah I thought that,mine is 2 sizes smaller, will be much more figure hugging. Seriously feel like exploding right now.
Post # 3
dude wtf is this chick’s problem?? so weird. just ignore her. you can’t argue with a crazy person. what does your brother say about this?
Post # 4
@emilygrace07: Its my new brother in laws wife to be, so we cant really discuss it with too many people . Thanks
Post # 5
So say something to her -“ummm, did you really mean to say those comments? Because, ouch, they kind of hurt and I really like you and want To have a great friendship with you.” Say something, please. I truly believe that half of the world’s problems could be resolved if we just talk to each other. Best wishes!
Post # 6
I would just let it go. The only person making an issue out of it is you. Unless you go around telling everybody, I guarantee nobody will even notice.
Post # 7
I don’t think her buying the same dress (from the previous thread) is a big deal at all….because 1) I don’t think anyone will really notice, except you and perhaps a few others, and 2) it’s her choice. BUT, I think her comment about the size of yours vs. hers is rude and hurtful, whether she meant it or not.
Post # 8
How inapropriate and rude! Hopefully it’s just that she’s so excited about it she doesn’t think before speaking. Maybe a heart to heart about how her comments are hurtful would help?
Post # 9
Here, check this out. 7 pages about the Bernadette dress, and every girl looks different:
Post # 11
Sounds like she’s either:
b. Sees you as a competition / benchmark
c. just really really insensitive
Honestly though, I am leaning more towards a+b. I would probably vent to my DH, get over it (not easy, but try) and next time she brings it up just say, yeah sure sure, then make an excuse and back away.
Post # 12
And by the way, I would probably feel a bit flattered the fact that out of 1million dresses in the world she picked yours. After your wedding. That must mean you are the trendsetter and she’s the follower *evil smile. You have inspired her.
Post # 13
At first, I defended this girl on your other post because I gave her the benefit of the doubt, but now it seems to me like she really is just jealous of you. Even if she isn’t actually jealous, she sure is ACTING like it! This was a very rude and uncalled-for comment that she has made now. Don’t let her get to you, though–she’ll enjoy it too much if you do!
Post # 14
You could always say something like this: “it doesn’t matter what size it is, it’ll always be my dress….”
Post # 15
When she talks about doing X differently, just smile and sweetly say, “I think that’s a very good idea. It will help disguise the fact that you couldn’t find a unique dress.”
And when/if she asks you any more questions about what you did, how you wore it, etc, don’t answer. Information is power. Just say, “I don’t think I should influence your look more than I already have. I’ll leave it to you to work out how you’re going to wear it.”
Post # 16
i think that was ridiculous for her to say, but i voted for move on too b/c what welse are you going to do?