Mini-Elopement & Convalidation?

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 2
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think this is a wonderful idea!  My SO and I actually just agreed that we will be doing something similar and I already feel so much relief.  We are going to elope at City Hall or in a park with immediate family only (15 people total) and then go for a beautiful dinner to celebrate.  Then a little ways down the road we are going to hold a reception of some kind with food, booze and dancing to celebrate with all of our friends (we have a big group) who didnt get to be there. 

Its basically the best of both worlds for us.  We still get to have our family there for our special day but we arent stuck with the 10K + bill and I am not running around stressing dealing with planning a huge day. 

Congrats and good luck!

Post # 3
7664 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Yes, you can absolutely do this. Once you are legally married, go to your priest with your paperwork and he will be able to arrange a convalidation. Bear in mind that the church will not consider you to be married until you have the convalidation… they will consider you to be engaged still. You may also have to attend pre-marital counselling before your convalidation.

A convalidation can be anything from a quick ceremony as part of the regular Sunday service, to a service which is fairly similar to a wedding service. Your priest will advise you accordingly.

Post # 4
6073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Would a convalidation wedding with just parents or just parents + immediate family followed by a brunch at someone’s home not be good enough?  I think if you put it that way (even if we saveid for 2 years we wouldn’t even come close to having enough $ for a full guested wedding!) people would take things into perspective and realize no one should do that. 

Post # 5
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Why not just get married in the Church with your closest friends and family and host the BBQ or a punch and cake reception after?

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