- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
So, she’s super competitive. Always wanting to compare weight, and clothing items, and house decor.
She will go out and buy almost identical things to what I have, and I never mention it, though I do notice. I don’t mention becuase really I dont’ care. And usually it’s the same color, most always.
She will insist that if I did something in my home, that I got it from her. Or it wouldn’t be there if it wasn’t for her influence.
What gets me is that she has two sisters who she will totally freak out on, and talk badly about, if they so much as get the same thing in a different color.
She’s also been hugely generous to me in all other aspects of my life, so I hate getting annoyed by petty things she does. With every nice thing there is an annoying thing that happens and I try not to sweat the small stuff.
The newest and latest thing is, when I got engaged, she asked me a million times how much her son spent, how many carats and tells me what a great job he did etc. Which is very nice.
All of the sudden in the few weeks leading up to my wedding she has spoken about nothing but a diamond ring.
She lost her engagment ring from my FFIL I guess years back and she just wears a gold band. She has this amazing antique engagement ring that only fits her pinky, and the cutest antique diamond wedding band that also only fits her pinky, but she keeps saying I need a HUGE diamond, one that is in your face. I want it big and sparkley blah blah blah. She brought all these antique diamond rings she had, and pearl necklaces to trade in for a purchase of a diamond.
My diamond(s) are not that big, but it is an antique art deco and she keeps mentioning how she hates that look, why do people want old jewlerly…(knowing I love that) and she just wants one single diamond right in your face so everyone notices it. she had me bring her to the jewlery store to look at rings, and orginally picked out a 33 thousand dollar ring, gorgeous and huge.
She made sure to ask me in the car, How much her son spent again, and how big is mine again and she’s only getting this diamond for investment purposes, it’s better than stocks
She eventually changed her mind and is getting something that is will cost her 8 Grand…the gorgeous antique stuff she traded in will pay for at least 80% of the ring . I needed a wedding band for my wedding in march , and tried on her antique wedding band the one she wears on her pinky…to see if it looked good with my engagment ring (it fit my ring finger find..she practically ripped the band out of my hands, (oh no that’s too much, it’s too much with your ring it doesn’t look right) I eventually settled on a simple white gold band and said I would upgrade in the next few years, and am totally fine with that.
I just can’t seem to shake the jealous feeling, and the strangeness about her wanting a diamond so badly all of the sudden. I may be super unresonable here, but it’s bothering me.