(Closed) mini rant about my competitive FMIL

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

So why are you telling every single detail, like cost and carats? Stop telling her and she can’t turn it around on you.

she sounds super insecure and jealous. 

Post # 6
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496 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1993

@Khalessi3:  She sounds like a pain and a 1 upper. People like that irritate me! I totally feel your pain.

As far as What would be the appropriate response in your opinion when she asks me “how much did it cost him, how many carats is it”?

 I would say, “I don’t really know. I don’t really pay much attention to things like that, so I didn’t ask him how much or how big it is.” I think that will keep people like her away.

Post # 7
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12250 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Uggh. What a nightmare! You should find the pawn shop she sold the antique band to and go buy it. Don’t tell her that’s WHY you want to find the shop, just that you have a “friend getting divorced who wants to sell some things” or something.

Then go get it.

Post # 8
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9234 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I read somewhere that the best response to obnoxious nosy questions is to say, totally straight-faced, “I don’t know – why do you ask?”  It turns the situation back on the questioner.  Might be hard to subtly call out your MIL like that, but it seems like that could help draw some boundaries.

She sounds like a real piece of work!  Ugh, I’m sorry!

Post # 11
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2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

@Khalessi3:  Or just tell her completely made up things. “Oh, hm, um… I think it’s 200 carats” or “I think he said it cost $300,000.00?” Then when she expresses confusion/disbelief, shrug and say, “I don’t remember and I don’t care. What matters to me is that I love your son and he picked it out for me.” If you refuse to play into her one-up game, I suspect she’ll give it up soon enough.

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