Post # 1
So today is only 17 days before my wedding…and this morning my maid of honor texts me and says that she’s dropping out of the wedding!! And my other maid of honor (i had 2) will not respond to me at all so i dont know if shes even in the wedding anymore! she hasnt even told me if she ordered her dress yet! Im getting so frustrated because it seems like people are purposely trying to ruin my day! We have had 5 groomsmen drop out already and have had to replace them….some of them were because they claim they have no money for a tux even though they have known for how long about this! one was because he claims his ipod went missing at our house and says we stole it (we both have iphones…why would we steal and ipod?!) and one wont tell us why…Im getting so PO’d!!!
Post # 3
I’m sorry. Just try to relax. Just remember if you have ten Bridesmaid or Best Man or none the most important thing is that you are marrying your man. I know it sucks for all this last minute cancellations but 17 days out let’s just try and focus on the positive stuff. Hope everything works.
Post # 4
I’m sorry! You should take some time away from wedding planning so that you can relax and come back to it refreshed. Sh*t happens, you just have to take it in stride. Good luck!
Post # 6
Oh wow, I’m sorry! It’s unfortunate that things like this happen, but they do. All you can do is move on.
Post # 7
thank you. I’m trying not to get too upset about things but it just gets so annoying because it seems like no one wants to be with me for my special day 🙁
Post # 8
Oh no! I’m sorry to hear that. I hope things get better for you.
Post # 9
wow! that is aweful. i would be really curious as to what is going on? did these bm’s have a bridal shower and bachollorette party for you?
Post # 10
No…they didnt even bother trying to throw one for me. My Fiance was sweet enough to throw me a shower and now I’m having my own mini bachelorette party with just my sisters and one or two other girls. Just a sleepover sort of thing at my house. But I have no idea what is going on honestly….
Post # 11
It seems like the common factor may be … you. Have you tried to reach out to these girls, not as “bride to bridesmaids” but as friends, and figure out what’s going on?
If no one wants to be your friend/support you, maybe it’s something you are doing?
Post # 12
That’s really bad. I would go ahead and move forward without them or find a very quick replacement that can find a dress off the rack because bridesmaids dresses can take time to come in. If you can’t find replacements just go with the flow if you have more groomsman vs bridesmaids have a groom walk down two bridesmaids at a time they have two arms 🙂 I have seen that done before! Best of luck to you!
Post # 13
This sucks…but it also sounds fishy…is it something you guys are doing? (No offense…) I’ve just never heard of this happening…
Post # 14
It’s nothing we are doing because we are making sure we arent asking them to do a lot or anything! I didnt even request a bridal shower or bachelorette party…I just told them if they wanted to, they could but no biggie if they couldnt. And I always stayed a friend and not a bride with them…the only thing I would ask is if they ordered their dress/ got fitted for tuxes. Maybe I was too nice and they figured they could take advantage of me or something…People have always been that way with me 🙁 A big thing is also the fact that the bridesmaids or grromsmen were friends amongst themselves as well so if one dropped out, their friends did to. thats what the groomsmen did…. i just cant figure it out 🙁 I try to give them the benefit of the doubt but its getting hard when its so close to the wedding day!
Post # 15
@MrsStamper21: If you’re always afraid that you’ll be too nice and other people will take advantage, maybe no one has gotten close enough to you yet because they can sense that you don’t fully trust them.
I don’t think anyone is setting out to ruin your wedding. At the end of the day, the thing that matters most is that you and your Fiance are married and surrounded by people who love and support you…if unsupportive people remove themselves, consider yourself lucky it happened now and not the day of or even right after the wedding.
I am sorry it’s happening though 🙁 I hope things improve soon! You’re going to have a beautiful wedding that you will remember for years to come as one of the happiest days of your life, because you’ll be married to the love of your life.