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i am admittedly probably a little bit overreacting but lately it seems like my FH has been totally a space cadet and it's really pissing me off. he went out to a concert the other night (left the apt at 4PM, the show started at 7.30) and he never told me he was planning to stay out late, so instead of going to bed as i planned to around midnight, i was up waiting to hear from him and starting to worry if everything was ok (when all he had to do was text me and say, hey concert is over but i'm gonna go hang out w/buddy A for a bit). instead, he tells me he's on his way home...at 1.15AM.

whenever he goes to the supermarket (by himself) to shop for stuff we need for a specific recipe, he rarely ever makes any effort to find the minimum possible amount that we need, or plans ahead how to make multiple meals from a large quantity of one thing. so we end up wasting/throwing a TON of food that isn't cheap. we're paying for a decent chunk of the wedding and our honeymoon, so it's not like we can afford to just throw food/$$ away.

and speaking of money: we don't have a joint bank account yet, so we're splitting wedding-related costs as best we can. since i paid for our save-the-date cards, we agreed he would pay for their postage. i specifically told him several times that when he went to the post office, he should buy postcard stamps (cause 1. our save-the-dates are postcards, and b. postcard stamps are cheaper which was the reason we did postcards in the first place), and since he was buying postcard stamps anyway, i asked him to pick up double the amount so we'd have them for our RSVPs which i intended to be postcards as well. well, he goes and buys 150 $.44 stamps!!! i was planning on getting nice stamps to use for the invites, and but of course he got the regular flag ones. so now, to avoid wasting the wrong/full price stamps he bought, we're going to have to buy envelopes for the RSVP cards, which will now make the postage of the invites cost more b/c of the extra paper. ARGH!!!!! we are already a little over budget, which is really really freaking me out, and i've discussed this with him about how not ok this is and how money is really tight and we just need to be on top of not overspending. so for him to go and waste more money at this point (because he wasn't paying attention and made a stupid mistake) makes me LIVID! and to add insult to injury, he didn't even mail the save-the-dates today, which was the whole point of me staying up till 1AM yesterday addressing them all! (long story short, we're REALLY late in sending them out b/c of some printing issues so i wanted to send them out ASAP after we got them in hand).

it's all so frustrating and when i talk to FH, he just rolls his eyes and does/says nothing. i hate feeling like a nag all the time, but he just so often does not pay attention or he gets in a zone where he just doesn't think about anyone else but himself.

sorry for the novel, peeps. anyone else's FH bungle things up during the wedding planning process? how did/do you deal with your frustrations toward your FH when he does stuff like this?

@noritake - i guess i must overestimate him in that respect. i think things are simple enough in my head that they don't need writing down. but that is a very excellent suggestion - thank you! i'm really glad to hear it has worked for you!

@purpleunicorn - my attitude in life is generally that: if you want something done right, do it yourself. however, i hate being like - hey, give me your credit card # so you can pay for this thing i'm doing. and then i also just get resentful that i have to do everything all the time, especially when i work way longer hours than him, and he works basically 9-5 and then comes home and sits in front of his computer playing games literally all night except for dinner.

@julies - you are genius! that is a brilliant idea! totally wasn't thinking ahead to TY cards :) postcard stamps cost only $.28 (for standard sizes, which ours are) and regular stamps are $.44.

i'm so glad for weddingbee when people out there are able to think of things i can't! thanks gals! i feel a little better already!