(Closed) Mini-Vent

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Hmm, personally, I wouldn’t be cool with that. It would be weird to have complete strangers at such an important event in your life. But if you don’t think you would care on the day of then just let him invite them. I think it just depends on which would be less stressful for you on your big day.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

its awesome that its his birthday and all, but I would not be okay with that.  He can have his party another day or not come.  Yes its his birthday, but its YOUR wedding!  lots of people celebrate their birthday not on the exact day!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Cant’ he celebrate his birthday the day before or the day after?  I think it’s a bit odd for him to invite people you don’t know to your wedding because it’s his birthday.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Well, you have one wedding. He has had 50 birthdays and he willl have another one next year. I think that your wedding is your wedding and not his birthday party. As long as you arent freaking out about him staying for the whole thing, I see no reason he and his wife/family can’t stay for the important parts of the wedding then go have his birthday how they wish.

Post # 9
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5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Absolutely not.  Your uncle can celebrate with his friends elsewhere.

Post # 10
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805 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I wouldn’t invite the friends. What I would do is buy him a bottle of something to enjoy with his friends after the reception when he sees them so you don’t get the bridezilla label. I also think it’s really nice that you gave the okay to have a little thing for him at the reception.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I wouldn’t be okay with that either. I want my close friends and family to help me celebrate. Not random people at my wedding celebrating something else. Its like sharing your reception venue with another party… but you’re getting stuck with the whole bill.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@LaCroix:  I’m sorry but that is ridiculous. This is YOUR day. YOURS. How many times I have had to have my birthday party on a different day because of school/work etc. I would never expect anyone to make any special note of me on their wedding day and I LOVE my birthdays. I say LaCroix is right, a bottle of champagne or something at the reception, but anything other than that (even 1 balloon on the chair) is unnecessary.

Post # 13
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328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wouldn’t be okay with it either. There’s no reason he can’t celebrate a day or two before or after with his friends. Maybe your band/dj can just make a mention of his birthday and dedicate a special song you think he likes in honor of it, but that should be it.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

it’s your wedding not his birthday party.

i wouldn’t like strangers at my wedding.  how rude to even ask.  personally, i’d rather him not come to my wedding if his birthday is so important to him that he wants to be with his friends.  can’t he have his birthday party the night before??  he’s acting like he’s turning 5 not 50.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would say to maybe have the DJ acknowledge his birthday at some point during the reception, or if you are going to make a small speech to wish him a happy birthday in it. Since you’re not particuarly close to him, I would imagine that would be good.

Definitely would not be okay with inviting people you don’t know…in total agreement with the other bees that it is is your wedding, not his birthday party! And on that end, i would definitely want to know specifics as to what your aunt is planning to do at his seat. 

It’s your wedding. It is about you and your FI. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty about it! 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

Yeah… no. It’s not a wedding-birthday combo or anything like that. If you were very close with your uncle I would say, why not, but you said you’re not close and his friends are strangers to you. So.. no.

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