Post # 1
My friends rock. They’re hosting what I think is going to be a terrific shower. With that said, a couple people have expressed concern about how early the party is, and how invitations have gone out before even save the dates. When I posted about it a few weeks ago here, fellow bees have expressed similar concern. It was just unavoidable, and I can’t complain because they have managed to arrange for my best friend to arrive. But yes, Miss Manners is whimpering in a corner somewhere…
With that said, would it be tacky for me to send a courtesy email to the folks that were invited? Something like, “It’s unorthodox to have a shower so long before the wedding, but the most important thing is to see as many of your best friends as you can. Our hosts found that this was the only date where we could all travel. Thanks for understanding, and hope to see you there!”
Post # 3
Is there a way the hosts of the shower could include that statement with the invitations (rather than you sending out an email)?
Post # 4
Is it mostly family coming? I would say that you should ask family/friends to deliver your message by word of mouth. I agree that it’s a little strange to have the shower so far ahead… but I don’t think anyone will be put off.
Post # 5
@milesbella: The invitations have already gone out over the weekend. :/ Pretty much everyone should have them by now.
@PrairieGirl: Only my FMIL. No family on my side.
I want to ask my friends to do it but I don’t want to offend anyone by doing so. The reason why the shower is so early is because my best friend is pregnant and won’t fly with a newborn any time later this year or early next year…I don’t want her to feel singled out and “blamed” for anything.
Post # 6
I think it’s pretty silly for people to be upset. It’s your shower, you can have it when you want to! I also don’t think it’s any of their business why. If they’re your good friends and family, they should want to celebrate with you and be happy for you.
I would probably just let it go. If people ask why the shower is so early you can tell them, but I wouldn’t go out of my way to do it.