Post # 1
We were at a family event yesterday and SO had to leave early for work. I stayed a while after he left to help his mum with something and as I was leaving his sister asked how things were going on the engagement front. They were no different to the last time we had discussed it (the ring has been purchased but no idea if it’s in the house or yet to be picked up or what!) and she laughed and said it was ok and that she would probably know before I did when he was about to pop the question because he would feel the need to tell his family what he was doing first. I’m not annoyed at her or anything – we get along really well and she will be my bridesmaid – I am annoyed at SO because she is right! and that upsets me – I have been waiting SO LONG!! I should get to know first!!!!!
Post # 3
I can see how you would feel this way but look at like this, there are plenty of proposals where the entire family not only knew beforehand but were there to celebrate after. I’m not trying to minimize your feelings but it’s really not that big of a deal. Besides which at the end of it all, you will be engaged-very soon from the sound of it:)
Post # 4
I can understand your frustration, especially if you aren’t into the tradition of your SO asking your father for your hand. However, it has become more apparent to me how many people actually know before you will. My SO has told ALL of his coworkers, friends, EVERYONE that he bought the ring. He’s just excited to get married so it doesn’t bother me. I think your SO will be excited as well and he wants to share the news and have “permission” from both families before he pops the question. It’s really kind of sweet in a way.
Post # 5
MY FI told his family hours before he proposed because it was suppose to be a surprise for me, which it was. I wouldn’t get upset about that- it is quite common.