Post # 1
FMIL and I were discussing the wedding and where everyone was going to stay the night before. I’m having the girls stay with me and I think all the guys are staying together. I wanted to save the girls a little extra money by giving them a place to stay for the night, plus I thought it would be fun to see everyone and just relax. Anyway, I made a joke that my FI could come stay in the apartment with us girls and FMIL was VERY aganist it. She said something to the effect of she would do whatever it took to make sure I didn’t see him the night before. Apparently I can see him at the reherseal and reherseal dinner, but then not until the wedding. She’s fine with us doing a First Look, she just doesn’t want us to see each other until? It’s not a big deal really, but I was suprised by how adament she was and I couldn’t figure out the reason behind it. We live together, so I know sleeping in the same bed isn’t the issue.
Post # 3
I guess it’s just the old tradition of not seeing each other before the wedding. Oh well, just move on from it.
Post # 4
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: I think I was just more taken aback by her INSISTANCE that it was going to be that way, not about the issue at all. I love my FMIL and we have a great relationship and I just thought it was odd.
Post # 5
I’m, I’m the same – I would hate to see my FI before the ceremony!!! I am admant that we don’t! – we’re not doing a first look either.
I’d just forget it – it’s just how some of us are! 😀
Post # 6
She probably was very taken aback by the idea and did not have the ability to mask her surprise well. To some, a wedding has some very set and immovable ‘rules,’ and this appears to be one of them for your FMIL. If you want to see him before the wedding, I would speak with her again about it, in private.
Post # 7
I know the feeling! My FI is very superstitious, and he truely believes that if he sees me in my dress before the wedding, that our marriage will be doomed to bad luck for life. Personally I think it’s silly, but I go along with it because it’s important to my FI. I just count his superstitions as one of his quirks that makes him cute LOL.
Post # 8
If you live together and are adults, personally, I would just ignore her. She has the right to say anything she wants but she doesn’t have a right to dictate what you do.
Post # 9
I didn’t want to be apart from my husband so we spent the night before together rather than apart. It made sense to us, and no one argued it
Post # 10
We are spending the night together before the wedding and hope to have lots of “fun” that night. And then maybe again in the morning…