(Closed) Mis-matched wedding party – guys and girls on BOTH sides???

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m in the camp thay guys go on one side and girls go on the other no matter who you’re standing up for/who asked you. 

It’s fine to have four people if it’s your second wedding or your eleventh ;o)

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

I think that sounds like a perfect wedding party.  I’m in the camp that your people should be on your side and his on his!  🙂  Actually whenever I see a large “traditional” girls only and guys only wedding party I wonder about the bride and groom having no good cross sex friendships. 

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

My friend did this at her wedding last year and it was fine (and they had different numbers on each side too).  They picked a different color for each side.  It didn’t seem strange at all.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think it will make for great pictures.  They could pose and stand where ever. I like this picture from a vanity magazine.  I don’t think it’s a wedding party but you get the idea.

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Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We’re doing a mixed-gender wedding party. It just makes more sense to have whomever is closest to each person stand on their side. Plus, I would have felt kind of weird asking one of my fiance’s female friends to be a bridesmaid. As for the number of people – have however many you want!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I think it’s fine.  I am in a wedding next year that’s doing this, although they have 11 on one side and 13 on another!

Post # 9
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2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

i think that is totally fine and makes sense!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I personally would put girls on one side and guys on the other (I’m having his cousin as a BM, for example, and he’s having my brother as a GM). But that’s just my personal preference, I think you’ll be fine with a mixed gender wedding party. I like the idea of having them wear different colors so you know who’s on whose side. 

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I think you should stick with your mismatched party!  A friend’s brother did this and I adored the way they made the sides stand out:  They had all the guys in suits and the girls in matching black lace dresses.  Then one side had yellow ties and sashes to the dress, and the other side had blue ties and sashes.  You could tell who was on whose side, but everything still looked cohesive.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think it’s awesome that you have a mixed gender wedding party.  If I were doing that, I might ask the wedding party what would make them more comfortable in terms of which side they stand on. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

i think it will look great. I was also thinking about adding my bothers to mine. GO FOR IT!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

I think that your people should stand up for you and his people should stand up for him.  I think it’s important that you have your people supporting you on your big day by standing with you, IMO.  You can always take some pictures with guys and girls on each side if you want, but I’m definitely having my brother and best friend (guy) stand on my side during the ceremony.

When my friend did this at her wedding, all the guys wore black suits.  Her brother (standing on her side) wore a tie to match the BM’s dresses and the GMs just wore black ties.  The groom’s sister (standing on his side) wore the same style dress as the BMs, but in black, so it was really clear who was standing up for who.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We had one male attendant and one female attendant.  We never even decided which one was supposed to be standing up for which one of us.  (They were both my kids.)  Everyone survived.

Honestly, you can do it however you prefer.  People can walk alone, or in pairs of the same gender.  Or you can have them walk in mixed-gender pairs, but with the one who is a groom’s attendant on the groom’s side and the one who is a bride’s attendant on the bride’s side.  Or you can have them walk in however you want, and then just take their places on the appropriate side when they reach the front.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We are having mis-matched and an uneven wedding party. I have 2 Maids of Honor 1 Man of Honor and 2 Bridesmaid…and my Fiance has 7 Best Men. Yes, he doesn’t want to choose so he designated all of them as his best man. lol .But I think do what you want…its your wedding if they don’t like it then oh well.

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