Post # 1
Had bleeding yesterday and went to the doctor. The sac is gone… we didn’t see a baby inside it when I was supposed to be 7 weeks, 3 days when I had my first ultrasound over a week ago. Just an empty sac measuring about 5 weeks. Doctor still had hope that maybe I wasn’t as far along as I thought since we were just going by LMP at that point. I was scheduled for another ultrasound on the 19th but I didn’t make it that far… I sort of knew it was inevitable but it still hurt. I’m scared to go to the bathroom in fear of seeing that much blood again like yesterday morning.
I’m wondering now… how old were you when you had your miscarriage? I’m 26, going on 27 in one more week. I can’t help but wonder if there’s something wrong with me, if I should’ve done anything differently, etc, etc, etc. This is more difficult than I thought – even though we never planned this pregnancy, we were still looking forward to starting our family…
Post # 3
I had my miscarriage in December and was 25, I’ll be 26 this month. There really wasn’t anything you could have done, I’ve already questioned and beat myself up over that question. Planned or not, once you get that BFP you become attached to that lil bean…
Post # 4
I’m not so sure age has anything to do with it. I know as many women who miscarried at 18, 19 or 20 as I do who miscarried at 30+.
It’s usually chromasomal abnormalities… nothing you could have done.
Post # 5
I’m so sorry for your loss. You should definitely know that this is not your fault. Most of time time, an early miscarriage like this is caused by a chromosomal abnormality that couldn’t be avoided or prevented. Unless you were out shooting up heroin or something, this is absolutely not your fault and there is probably absolutely nothing you could have done differently.
Many, many, many women have miscarriages and go on to have healthy babies in the future. It does not mean that there’s anything wrong with you. There are some tests your doctor might run to see if you have an immune or endocrine disorder, but a great majority of the time, a miscarriage is just a really sad thing that happens, not an indication that anything is wrong with you or your partner.
And to answer your question, I was 32 when I had my miscarriage.
Take good care of yourself, feel free to PM me if you’d like to talk about it and consider joining us in the TTC After Miscarriage thread… Even if you’re not TTC again, I think the ladies posting in that thread have really been a wonderful support for me and for each other, so you are totally welcome to join in. Thinking of you…
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site
I had mine just before Christmas, I was 31 almsot 32.
Post # 7
My first miscarriage at 25. Second at 26.
Sorry for your loss <3 when you’re ready feel free to join us at the Journey of TTC after miscarriage thread. Like KatieBklyn said, even if you’re not TTC, it’s good to have somewhere to openly talk about what you’re going through with ladies who understand.
Post # 8
@isthisreallyreal: I’m so sorry. Mine was in December at age 31. I agree with the previous posters that you should join our group. It sounds weird, but these internet strangers have been my biggest support. It’s nice to know someone if feeling the same pain as you at the same time.
Post # 9
I was 36 for a few of mine and 37 for a few.
Post # 10
@isthisreallyreal: I’m sorry you are going through this. There is a great, supportive bunch of ladies on the mc thread. I’m almost 35 and have had a mc at 10 weeks and an early chemical.
ETA: I should have read the other comments first. Looks like I’m not the first to mention the mc thread!!
Post # 11
I am so sorry for your loss. If it is your first pregnancy sometimes your body will just reject it naturally. It is nothing that you have done, its not your fault. Please do not blame yourself. There are many things in life that we have no control over. Sending you and your partner healing thoughts
Post # 12
@isthisreallyreal: I’m so sorry for your loss. You didn’t do anything wrong and there was nothing you could have done to prevent it. I know that doesn’t make it hurt any less, but it’s true, so please don’t blame yourself.
I was 19 when I had my ectopic pregnancy (which isn’t a miscarriage technically, but ended the same, only with surgery necessary).
I had a chemical pregnancy when I was 23, nearly exactly a year before I got pregnant with my healthy rainbow baby.
I do hope you have your rainbow baby soon <3