Miscarriage options

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
2527 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@hotpinkbride:  i haven’t been in this situation but just want to give you big hugs. i’m so sorry you’re going through this.

Post # 5
8658 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@hotpinkbride:  Oh Honey, I am so sorry to hear this. My heart is breaking for you. I haven’t ever been pregnant so I can’t share a story. Whichever option feels right to you is what’s best. I’ve heard of some woman wanting their bodies to go naturally, but other prefer the faster D&C. I am so sorry you are going through this. You and your husband are in my thoughts. I’m sorry for your loss. (((HUGS))))

Post # 6
843 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel

@hotpinkbride:  I actually had a miscarriage back in April at 11 weeks but baby had stop growing at 5 weeks and there was no heartbeat either 🙁 I didnt realize it until I started bleeding and went to the ER thats where they did my ultrasound, I was already going through a natural miscarriage. If I was in your position where I have to chose I think I would choose miscarriage by medication. I would hate to have to wait for my body to pushed the baby ouit while I know its dead inside me.


On the other hand I want to give you a little bit of hope. I actually found out I’m pregant again yesterday, I got pregnant 2 months after my miscarriage, needless to say I’m freaking out and terrified to miscarry again:(  but it is posible to get pregnant again very soon after a miscarriage, your are more fertile for a little bit then. i know you will get your rainbow baby soon!


Good Luck to you an stay strong! 




A “rainbow baby” is a baby that is born following a miscarriage or still birth.


The storm (pregnancy loss) has already happened and nothing can change that experience. Storm-clouds might still be overhead as the family continue to cope with the loss, but something colourful and bright has emerged from the darkness and misery.








Post # 7
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@hotpinkbride:  I am so sorry you have to make this decision.  I would choose the D&C.  It’s invasive but at least you know for sure that the miscarriage is over and you don’t have to wait around for it to happen on its own.  But I understand wanting to go naturally as well because you always hold out hope.

Post # 9
787 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.  Unfortunately, the same thing happened to me back in Jan.  I originally decided that I wanted to miscarry naturally because it had been almost 2 weeks since there was any development, so I assumed it wouldn’t be long before my body realized this.  We got the news on a Wed, and by friday I decided I couldn’t deal with the emotional aspect, and I wanted to move forward and take care of things medically.  After much discussion with my DH, I finally decided to have it medically induced with misoprostol.  I chose this option rather than the D&C only because I was worried about scar tissue.  It had taken us 13months to get our BFP, so I was worried that the d&c would make it harder to conceive again.  I did end up needing 2 rounds of the medication because all of the tissue didn’t pass.  If you go this route, I strongly encourage you to ask for pain medication.  My dr prescribed me vicodin to take 1hr before inserting the tablets, and I’m so happy she gave me this.  Even with vicodin and motrin, I had some of the most intense cramps of my life.  Basically, you’re forcing you’re body into labor, and with all of the emotions, it made it that much worse.  I don’t mean to scare you, just giving you a warning.

ultimately, you have to do what you feel is right for you.  If I ever were to be in the position where I had to make this decision again, I would choose the same thing again.  No matter what you choose, it isn’t going to be easy.  A lot of people opt for the d&c because it’s faster, so you also need to think about how long you want to drag it out.  from the time I took the medication until all of the tissue had passed, it was about 4 days, a total of 7 days bleeding.

I really am sorry you have to go through this.  I hope you’re able to move forward and that you get your rainbow baby soon.  Please feel free to PM me with any questions you may have. 

Post # 12
407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am so sorry. The same thing happen to me. I should have been 9 weeks but the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks and no heart beat. I did the D&C but i wish i hadnt. The MD did not get all of the “products of conception” out. (Production of conception is what they call it…sounds better i guess). He wasnt able to femove everything, not his fault just something that happens. I ended up miscarrying everything on my own anyways and on top of that got an infection from the surgery. (Pelvic inflammatory disease) from the D&C. I woukd have been better off letting nature take its course. It ended up costing about 4k and my body had to go through it anyways. Of course this is just my story. People have them all the time with no complications. 

Post # 14
2164 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@hotpinkbride:  So sorry to hear about your loss. It’s so so hard to see past today and the heartbreak you feel, but I promise it will get better and you will heal.

Unfortunately I went through a very similar situation. I got pregnant in April had my first ultrasound, everything looked good I was 6w4d we saw the heartbeat flickering and were so so excited. My next appt wasn’t until 12 weeks. We went in and the nurse attempted to find the heartbeat for about 15 minutes and couldn’t. I started getting so nervous and she could tell because the doppler starting picking up my heartbeat instead. Right away I knew something was wrong. The Dr. came in to do an ultrasound and said “I’m going to be honest with you I’m not seeing what I want to see” She confirmed that the baby was only measuring 6.5 weeks and had no heartbeat. I was devestated. Basically my body had NO idea the baby had stopped growing practically the day after our first appt. It was so hard, I felt like my body betrayed me somehow by not giving me any signs I had miscarried. 

I chose to have a D&C 2 days later. My doctor told me it could be weeks or even months before my body would realize what had happened. 6 weeks had already gone by and nothing had happened naturally. I just wanted it all to be over. The D&C was no where near as bad as I thought it was going to be. Obviously it was hard emotionally but afterwards I wasn’t in pain. I did have some heavy bleeding and a little clotting for a couple days after but that was it. I got my period exactly one month after the D&C. We wanted to be able to start TTC again relatively soon. My Dr. said to wait for one regular period before trying again so that’s what we did. We are now TTC again and hoping very much for a rainbow baby soon!

You obviously need to make the best decision for you and your body. I don’t regret doing the D&C at all because I wanted it over and done with as soon as possible. Goodluck to you and I hope you can heal soon and a rainbow baby is in your future!! Hugs to you!

Post # 16
2164 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@hotpinkbride:  Your welcome. You came to the right place for support. Keep leaning on your SO during this time. It’s so emotionally exhausting but ultimately it will get better. Best of luck as you make your decision and I hope whatever you choose can bring you some peace. Thank you for your kind condolences. 

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