(Closed) Miscarriage remembrance? Help!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i think that sounds lovely. 

it’s a nice ornament alone and only those who know the situation will understand the true meaning of it.

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Sounds great. You are a good friend.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m not sure because I don’t know her…i don’t know if she would appreciate the gesture or if she wants to just move on from the miscarriage and forget about it (since she was only a couple months along)

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

For me, personally, I would not want such a rememberance, but this si your friend. You know her; I don’t. I think with a miscarriage it’s really important to let go and move on and something like an ornament that would come out every year would just bring it up over and over and crush me. Miscarriage is common enough in early pregnancy that I don’t think it warrants some special note. A stillbirth would be a different story.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

I think the gesture is so sweet and thoughtful but I think if it was me I wouldn’t want something to remind me of that, especially each Christmas. I just imagine her pulling out her decorations next year after she may very well have gotten pregnant again, or had another baby and have to remember that all over again. I think it is great that you want to acknowledge the little life she lossed but maybe in another way? Either way it sounds like your a great friend and support.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

I think it sounds beautiful.  My best friend also miscarried a few months ago.  Such a hard thing to go through as a friend, I want to do so much for her but didn’t know what and she also lives far away.  I can’t imagine what these parents must feel when it happens.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

@mrsSonthebeach:  I actually know of several people who have ornaments they put on their christmas trees to remember their lost babies.  I have a friend who puts a star topper on their tree, they actually named their baby girl Stella which means “star” and for them this is healing and a way to remember a child they never got to know.

Everyone heals differently though.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@hogoboom2012:  This made me tear up. I think that is a lovely and thoughtful gift! I had a MC last month and I know for me that I would really love and appreciate a gift like that. So sweet of you!

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t know.

Does she WANT something she will have to look at all season to remind her of the miscarriage? I know I wouldn’t. Everybody grieves differently, so what you see as a nice gesture may be taken as something else by her. I know you want to be nice, but I think a supportive ear is better than an awkward christmas ornament.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

@hogoboom2012:  You are such a great and thoughtful friend to do this. If it were me I would love and cherish that ornament. I think you should do it. It is something small but reminds them you are thinking of them.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think it would be a nice gesture. She is your BFF. She knows what you mean. and 5 years from now when she takes it out she will remember that is the year this happened. and that they had good friends who shared their grief

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@mrsSonthebeach:  I agree.

OP, I still think the gift is a lovely idea. I just might not say in the note that this is in remembrance of her lost baby. I would just allude to the miscarriage, if anything, and not bring it up. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@hogoboom2012:  I think that sounds lovely. I miscarried several years ago, though very few people knew I was pregnant. I really appreciated those friends who went out of their way to support me, and I’m sure your friend will appreciate this. I agree with you about not getting something too blatent… I think the idea of the butterfly/season of hope is perfect.

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