Post # 1
Hey guys – I know this has been written about before — but what do you think of mismatched bm dresses? I’m having 3 ladies, and each will be in a different color of the same dress (jcrew, sydney, cotten)
Here are the colors:
(Spiced wine, navy, cypress)
They’ll all have champagne colored shawls. What do you think?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
those are really cute and great colors for fall (deeper and richer colors). some people do different shades of the same color, or different styles of similar colors, but really i think you can do anything. the shawls are a nice way to bring it together. it’s what you and the bridesmaids want. if you’re not concerned with matching dresses or a theme, then i say anything goes.
Post # 4
I’m sorry but I really dislike unmatching dresses because they tend to draw away from the most important woman there- the bride. I had originally intended to do this with my girls, but after asking around and searching many photos I realized “Wow that’s busy” and that I wasn’t seeing the bride first in any of the photos. You’re more important than any other woman there, don’t let them upstage you with the color of their dress. GL
Post # 5
My bridesmaids are definitely not matching, and I disagree that it distracts from the bride — I think that sometimes, the matching bridesmaid army, some of them inevitably in dresses that don’t quite suit them or their colouring, can be more of a distraction from the bride.
I’m only having two BMs, and my girls are quite different in both shape, colouring and taste — plus, one will have three month old twins at the time of my wedding. Plus, it’s really important to me that they love what they’re wearing and want to wear it again.
So I’ve got a palette (green) but they will be wearing different shades and cocktail- or tea-length dresses that are to their taste (with the caveat that I have to also like the dress).
Post # 6
I love mismatched Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. I guess mine weren’t really that mismatched, since they all wore black cocktail-type dresses (any one they chose), but all the dresses were different and all my girls looked so gorgeous and individual. I think your range of colors sounds beautiful, but have you seen them all in person to see if you like those colors together?
Post # 7
@ western- i love your choices… especially the green and red one. They all look good together imo. you could also have them all carrying the same bouquet or have them in the same necklace… my girls jewelry and bouquet will all be matching and they will all have gold shoes.. hoping that brings it all together!
i am doing very mismatched- told them to buy whatever “seaglass” color dress they want.. only one has bought one and it is a dusty shale from jcrew.. others have tentative maybes but haven’t settled on one yet… i love it… i dont care if its perfect. it will show off their personalities and each one will look fab and be comfortable. And I LOVE the way it looks in pictures.
@wonderland- totally agree about your bridesmaid army comment… yes matching dresses look beautiful when done right but my bridesmaids are sooo different.. but i guess it also takes a certain kind of bride to be so “whatever happens, happens”
Post # 8
I honestly don’t like the mismatched look. I can see where you would want different styles but the same color but I don’t really like the different colors, I think it just looks distracting and can easily get out of hand with the mulitple colors. A variation of the same color for a Maid/Matron of Honor to make her stand out, that’s better and can look really pretty but not the the multiple. The only time I saw it and LOVED it (although we never actually saw a ceremony or any kind of wedding/reception) was in Sex and the City the movie for Carrie’s wedding ha.
Sorry, that’s just my opinion!! Why don’t you take a couple of your BMs and have them try on the dresses in diff colors and see if you like it. Take pics so you can keep looking at it and have a reference.
Post # 9
Thanks for your comments everyone. I’m sticking with my original decision. I’m just really not into the idea of matching… And I love the way these colors go together for our fall wedding. I really do think that the shawls and matching bouquets will bring it all together.
As for “detracting” from the bride, I’m not too worried. My ‘maids are all GORGEOUS, wonderful people, but I’m the one in the long white dress making a lifetime committment. And since there’s only three of them, I’m hoping it won’t look too “busy.”
As for guests knowing who they are… it’s just not that important to me, I guess. Everyone who will be at the reception will be at the ceremony, and everyone know’s they’re my best friends.
Thanks again for all of your comments! I know that we’ll each choose whatever we love, and that’s the best!
Post # 10
I think that is totally up to you. I am having five bridesmaids and they are all wearing different dresses. Same color, but they get to have a dress that matches their personality. I have been to a couple of weddings where the dresses were different colors. It looks fine. Just stick to your choice and who cares what everyone else thinks. It needs to be what you want not what everyone else wants.
Post # 11
It is very popular to have different colors for bridesmaids gowns because every girl does not look the same in every color. So its nice to give your bridesmaids a choice and do a play on color, you can always tie the color choices into your flowers, linens, ties and other decorations.