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I jsut took misoprostol about half an hour ago. We went for an untrasond last night at 9 weeks and there was no heartbeat and the baby was a few days behind, so this happened recently I guess. We are just crushed. We planned on telling our immediate family tomorrow, but now the story is that I have a stomach virus. So Christmas is cancelled. Has anyone experienced anything like this? I don’t know what to expect. Also, how long until you got pregnant again with a healthy baby?
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I am so so sorry for your loss:(
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I’m sorry you’re going through this. I just took misoprostol for an IUD insertion and it really sucked for about two days. I recommend you keep a heating pad handy as that was the only thing that helped me. Hopefully someone else can answer your question about getting pregnant again.
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@GrannyPantiesRock: I am so sorry for your loss. Take all the time you need to grieve and heal. Sending lots of support to you and your SO. My sister had a MC about a year ago around 8 weeks or so. She took 1 cycle off and got pregnant the next cycle with my beautiful healthy nephew. Many women go on to have perfectly healthy pregnancies very soon after a MC.
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@GrannyPantiesRock: i am so sorry for your loss. take time for yourself and grieve. i cant even imagine what your holiday is going to be like. I am deeply sorry for you and your DH.
Now for some words of hope my SIL has a MC when she was about 8 weeks (it was in december) – she found out on valentines day she was pregnant again and had a healthy baby! She is currently pregnant with baby #2!
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@GrannyPantiesRock: I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending some positive thoughts your way.
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@GrannyPantiesRock: Oh my God, I’m so sorry. It just makes my heart sink to see this. I went through the exact same thing a few weeks ago so can relate from an emotional perspective. I actually had a D&C so don’t know regarding taking misoprostol. If you need to talk please pm me. At the moment you need to be around the people that you love and that are a support to you. Not everyone will get it, believe me but don’t let that deter you from taking all the time you need to heal. Xxx
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@GrannyPantiesRock: Oh no. I am so sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine. Sending you virtual hugs and love and future baby dust.
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@GrannyPantiesRock: I’m just so sorry to hear this. Sending you lots of love and best wishes x x
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@GrannyPantiesRock: I just wanted to say how very sorry I am. That is just miserable and my heart goes out to you. Three of my friends have had miscarriages and it seems very hard and very sad. One went on to conceive two months after and now has a beautiful baby boy. One has PCOS and was taking Clomid, I think it took her another 7 months, she is now 30 weeks along and feeling great. My other friend miscarried in October and is currently trying again. Once again I am so sorry that happened to you. Take care of yourself and grieve anyway you like- there is no right way to feel.
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@phoebephoebo: Thank you everyone. I never imagined how difficult this would be. Everything passed on Christmas morning and yesteday I actually felt relieved since the process itself was over. I don’t think anyone who has never had a mc can really understand how traumatic the whole thing is. Every trip to the bathroom is terrifying and you’re just so scared of what you will see. When it was over yesterday, I felt good because the worst part was done. However, today I’m just so sad. I just feel empty. DH is trying to look on the brightside by saying at least we can enjoy New Year’s and maybe plan the honeymoon we postponed as a result of the pregnancy, but nothing like that helps me. All the stuff that I “missed” while being pregnant doesn’t appeal to me at all because it just reminds me of what I lost. Although I dread being pregnant again because I’m afraid the same thing will happen, I also think it’s the only way to move on. It’s not that he doesn’t want to try, but he thinks I should heal first while I see trying again as the only way I can heal. It just makes the journey of early pregnancy so much longer and harder. Assuming we try and are successful next cycle that means that I’ll have been in the first trimester for 5 out if the last 6 months not including the miscarriage recovery month. That’s a long time to spend in such an uncertain state. I just wish this never would have happened. I don’t kow how I will ever be able to enjoy being pregnant again.
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I’m glad for you that the physical ordeal of the actual process is over, but acknowledge that the entire process itself is nowhere near over for you. I wish I had something brilliant to say that would even give you some tiny bit of comfort, but just know that we all feel for you.
I am sure that you have read all the literature out there, and at least scientifically know that one miscarriage does not necessarily equal a higher liklihood of an unsuccessful second pregnancy. However, I would think that because you did have your MC that your doctor will want to check in with you more frequently in your first trimester of your next pregnancy. That way, although you will surely be worried in between every appointment, you’ll still receive comfort that things are going okay more frequently than you did this time.
FX for a very speedy mental and physical recovery, and a quick time getting pregnant the second time, if that’s what you and your husband decide you want.
Post # 16
My heart goes out to you. I am so incredibly sorry this happened to you.
Have you considered maybe going through some sessions of counseling with your DH just to get all the feelings out and to develop a plan for ttc again?
You are in my prayers.