- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
This is a little emotional for me – just posting it on the bee to avoid spreading dishumor at my shower and to my friend…
My best friend from graduate school decided two and a half weeks ago to get married today. When she told me she was getting married today, she said “I know it’s the day of your shower, I’m really sorry that you can’t be there.”
She’s planned the wedding really quickly to accommodate some family drama on his part. I know it’s her second wedding, so she’s being super low key about it, but I just hate it because all of our friends are out of town and unable to make it on such short notice. She’s even keeping it a secret from some of our friends because they’ve had vacations planned and she doesn’t want them to feel like they have to choose. I almost got the feeling that she didn’t really want to tell me because she didn’t want me to have to choose – which is a little hurtful, even though I know she wanted it to have the opposite effect.
My shower this afternoon is four and a half hours from her wedding location at 3:00. Her wedding is at 7:00. The shower has been planned for months – the invitations literally went out two months ago. I have four hostesses who are sorority sisters. It came down to disappointing four people who spent a lot of time and effort planning it (plus all of those attending) to only disappointing two – myself and my bf, who knew and acknowledged from the beginning that I wouldn’t be there, and was okay with it. Any time I even mentioned cancelling, she got upset and said she didn’t want me to cancel something that has been planned for months, and that wasn’t her intention from telling me. 🙁
It just feels so ridiculous to miss a good friend’s wedding because of a shower, but there was just no way around it from my point of view. 🙁 Anyway, I’m planning on texting her throughout the day – I took her out last night for an impromptu last-minute bachelorette celebration, so it’s not like I haven’t celebrated with her. She keeps saying that we’ll celebrate at my wedding in a few months (she can’t have alcohol tonight because of his family, it’s going to be mostly his family without any of our grad school friends, etc.).
Anyway, just rambling thoughts this morning about this huge disappointment. It feels better just getting it off my chest. Thanks for reading, if you made it through.