Post # 1
Ok bees … I have to get this off my chest…I am hurt. My best pal for years has essentially writteneme off.
When she got engaged last year, I thought I may be a bridesmaid and had originally planned to have her in my wedding. ..but nothing. I tried to let it go , since I knew that she was doing more of family for ber wedding.
She and her now husband were in the area and my fiance and I invited tgem for dinner. ..they passed.
I drove 3 hours each way to make it to both her shower and wedding, and missed an event I was looking forward to for it. I found out last week that I hadn’t been invited to her bachelorette party, after seeing pix ber sis posted on Facebook.
Now it is looking like she won’t be able to make the wedding or my local shower , And our last several conversation s have been awkward.part of me says to let it go…and realize she is busy. ..and part of me wants to say screw you I am hurt.
I ended up picking my local friends for bridesmaids and they have been phenomenal.I try adore them, and am happy with my choice.. Mycollege roommate has also been awesome even after 10 years. I am super thankful for them but I horribly miss mygood old friend. It has kept me up at night and really saddend me… right now I am not even excited for tbe shower that my fiance’s amazing family is throwing for me across the country.
what do I do. How do I let this go?
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
To be fair, it is really difficult to know why she is being so cold and distant until she shares her side of the story. Some ladies forget about their friends when they get married and have different priorities; etc.
Enjoy and cherish the people you do have! It’s normal to miss your best pal, but realize that people do drift away but they would eventually come back. The best thing you can do is to leave her where she is… and pick up where you guys last left off. Let her initiate contacting you. It would be sad to ruin a friendship you’ve had for more than 10 years.
Post # 4
That really sucks, and I am sorry. Do look at all the friends you do have now that have stuck by you though, and be happy you have them.
You could always flat out ask this friend if you did something wrong. Approach it in a polite manner of course. Just explain that you have felt distant and just want to know if everything is okay between you two.
Post # 5
Im really sorry you’re going through this.
I’m a pretty blunt person, so I would probably talk to any of my best/close friends directly about this. This is what I do when I have issues with them. I bring it up and we talk. I have only had to do this a few times, but it’s pretty effective, actually. We don’t fight or anything, it’s just a discussion where we share our viewpoints on the situation.