Post # 1
Does anyone else ever feel like they are missing out on a lot of the things you are “supposed” to do pre-wedding? I know most of them are just created by the wedding industry, so I try to not dwell on it, but I’m hoping I can vent to some bees in similar circumstances.
He was deployed for the majority of our engagement (and I haven’t moved yet to where he’s stationed, so we are still long distance). I did most of the planning, and all of the looking at venues alone, etc while he was gone. We did our marriage prep online, aka, I did all of it myself. I registered alone as well. We aren’t having any engagement parties, showers, or anything like that. We also didn’t do engagement pictures, for pretty much the same reason (and now feels silly to do them with like two months to go).
I can’t imagine doing all of this the “traditional” way where we both lived in the same city and did everything together! haha.
Post # 3
@NavyBride2013: Well, I can understand why you might feel upset or maybe just a little slighted by having to do all these things by yourself, but there are a lot of advantages to it too. You don’t have to compromise on what you want, you don’t have people butting into you business, and you saved a ton of money by not doing all those things. Plus, having to be apart for all of this is just going to make your wedding that much more special.
Post # 4
this response couldnt be more true and uplifting!
@NavyBride2013: feel free to message me if you need to vent or even just talk 🙂
I was in your shoes (still am/will be for next couple weeks) and I know it is super hard! My best friend is marrying her FI and as the MOH I have watched them be able to enjoy the company of one another. It sucks not being able to enjoy these typical moments but when the wedding arrives you will have forgotten all of the things you missed. Just imagine experiencing homecoming AND wedding emotion wrapped into one event! You will not only be celebrating the union of your lives but also the reunion of his return! Your day is going to be soo blessed 🙂
Post # 5
It was the same thing with DH and I. We were long distance for awhile before he proposed. I planned a wedding and he ldeployed before the big day. We did not do any of the extras. Literally nothing just a rehearsal dinner and the wedding, but honestly none of the other stuff mattered. We had an amazing wedding day and I loved every second and nothing else mattered.