Post # 1
So my wonderful FI and I got engaged Aug 18th of 2010 and secretly Ive been wanting someone to throw us an engagement party. Im the first “kid” on both sides of my family and Im just kinda bummed about it. Im not saying our families should throw us one but I just always thought SOMEONE would. I dont want to sound selfish because that is not me by an means but Im a little bummed 🙁 How many of you ladies didnt have an E-Party?
Post # 3
We didn’t have one. We were engaged the end of June and had our regular July 4th party, though, so we did get to celebrate with friends…but it wasn’t focused on our engagement. I’ve had tons of friends get engaged, and I’ve only been to one e-party. Maybe they just aren’t that common in my area?
Post # 4
i didnt have one – my parents did put together some cocktails and a cake for us the weekend we got engaged but it was just family (immediate family, my siblings and my parents) it was really nice, but it wasnt an engagement party.
no one really offered, and i wasnt going to throw one myself. we did do a stock the bar/housewarming party though when we moved into our new place together…
Post # 5
We didn’t have one. Engagement parties aren’t really done around here. I’ve never known a couple to actually have an engagement party, now that I think about it.
Post # 6
We didn’t do one. OUr families and friends are spread out all across the country and world. It would have been nice, but I understood why we didn’t have one.
We’re actually just doing a Jack and Jill “shower” instead for the people that can come! I want it to have a more engagement party feel moreso than a shower feel.
But I understand what you mean about wishing people would throw you a party…not saying they have to but kind of hoping. It sucks!
Post # 8
We didn’t have one. It’s not a tradition in either of our families. I wouldn’t feel too bad about it. Maybe if they threw a party for a sibling but not for me, I’d get upset, but if your family isn’t the engagement-party type, I don’t think that’s a huge deal!
Post # 9
The same thing happened to me. I was hoping, but it never happened.
On top of that, the weekend after we got engaged we had dinner with a bunch of our friends to celebrate and got a lot of flack from relatives for a) not telling them and b) celebrating where we live instead of where they live. So not only did we not have an engagement party, we got told off when we did try to do something small ourselves.
Post # 10
We didn’t have one either. Also, at 40 years old, I’ve never attended one or been invited to one. I think some people just don’t do them – others, they do and it’s a big deal. Maybe they had no idea you wanted one?
Post # 11
We didn’t have one. I’ve only been to one. I know the feeling though.. I was kind of hoping my parents would do something- even if it was just to invite my FH and I out to dinner to celebrate. My mom also asked if she “had” to throw me a bridal shower. I think, for some people, this stuff just isn’t really on their radar. Try not to feel bad about it.
Post # 12
I don’t tihnk engagement parties are that common, actually. We didn’t have one, either!
Post # 13
We didn’t have one. And I’m glad no one through one for us- I would have felt so guilty if they went to all that trouble and expense.
Post # 14
Ya come to think of it Ive only been to one and there parents had some serious $$$ . Thanks ladies! But I agree with @EleanorRigby: dinner would have been nice haha
Post # 15
I feel like you!
FI’s sister had one for her wedding and FMIL is very big on making everything “fair” for her kids… so it was kind of in the works to be planned, but said sister was pregnant with the first grandbaby and they decided that there just wasn’t time.
Post # 16
We threw our own!! It was just dinner at a fancy restaurant for our immediate families, just so everyone could get a chance to meet.
I agree with PP, they’re not very common!