Post # 1
Oh Bees… I’m so upset right now and feel like I’m being crazy and irrational. My Fiance is in the middle of planning his bachelor party and for some reason it makes me feel so uneasy. I’m not one of the lucky girls who is fine with their man going to a strip club:) I don’t want some girl rubbing all over him! I totally trust him 100%, I guess it’s just that I feel it’s so disrespectful. He doesn’t care about having strippers and told his friends not to plan any. But now I feel so GUILTY because he’s such a great guy and I want to be able to just see him off happily and be excited for him, not be the controlling crazy girl! I’m usually so easy going, and my Fiance and I are both surprised I’m having these feelings. He says if it upsets me he’ll just not have a bachelor party, but that’s not what I want- I want him to have fun time with they guys and let them just do their boy things. I’m trying so hard to just be happy for him, but then another part of feels I’m entitled to put restrictions on the weekend (they’re going away for 3 days). How can I feel better about this?
Post # 3
Is it necessary to have strippers to ‘have fun with the guys’? If you’re that uncomfortable with it could they maybe think of some other ideas that don’t involve naked ladies?
I know my Fiance doesn’t want to go to the strippers (because he feels they are dirty and disgusting) so they’re going to go golfing for the day and then having some wings and beers.
On a different tangent I don’t understand the stripper bachelor party appeal. Is it that it’s not considered cheating until marriage or what? I don’t think it’s a super classy thing to do, married or unmarried, unless your SO is down with it.
Post # 4
just ask them to go camping or white water rafting or something like that.
Post # 5
My Fiance is going to a gun range, then to paintball, then out at his favorite bar where they have lots of different beers with the guys. I think there are tons of things for them to do that don’t involve strippers. The idea that guys could only hang out and have a good time if there are naked women grinding on them is ludicrous.
Post # 6
My husband’s friend talked about getting a stripper for his bachelor party and I was really up front with him and told him it made me uncomfortable. Luckily he didn’t want anything to do with any strippers so he easily put an end to those plans… I felt really guilty about it too. Especially because I’ve been to plenty of strip clubs, I’ve had friends who are strippers, I generally don’t mind them at all. But for some reason I just didn’t feel like it was an appropriate way to celebrate the beginning of our marriage. They ended up doing a guys night/ slumber party thing at his moms house instead! Just be honest with him. There have been so many threads on this topic so you can always look back at those and see how other girls have handled the situation.
Post # 7
thanks northernazbride- you put into words what I’m feeling- I don’t mind strippers either- it’s just the part of it having to do with beginning our marriage that bothers me!
Post # 8
I agree with you all. Why feel guilty? It’s disrespectful and I can’t see how that celebrates the beginning of marriage either. I wouldn’t go to a strip club for my bachelorette and I expect the same level of respect from my fiance.