Mixed Feelings! First Dance. PLEASE HELP!

posted 2 years ago in Music
  • poll: Should my FI and I dance to "our" song, 'The Dance'.
    ABSOLUTELY, DUH! : (14 votes)
    93 %
    Mehh. : (1 votes)
    7 %
    Ummm, No! : (0 votes)
  • Post # 2
    2428 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I say go for it, especially since it holds so much meaning to you both! If people think it’s odd, so what!

    Post # 3
    5773 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Most folks don’t pay attention to the first dance song. Unless it’s highly choreographed and you’re both excellent dancers, most people talk amongs themselves or sit nicely and wait for the first dance to be over. I think you’ll be okay using “your” song. You are probably the only ones who will be able to say what it was, 1 week later.

    Post # 4
    2791 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

    Use it if you want. Keep it as a “backup plan” if you can’t think of anything else. I don’t think your guests will second guess it.  They’re not listening that closely to the lyrics.

    Post # 6
    612 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I don’t see why you wouldn’t use it if it means that much to you.

    That said… I am seriously considering “We’ve Got a Big Mess on Our Hands” as the bridal party entrance song to the reception since it means a lot to us… even though my grandmother might have a stroke and my friends might wonder why I am picking random indie rock songs from 8 years ago… so weigh my advice with that factoid.

    Post # 7
    988 posts
    Busy bee

    niawa41:  I totally get picking a first dance song because it has special meaning in your relationship, but (as I’m sure you already know) that song is about remembering a past love who has died. It’s basically saying you wouldn’t go back and change anything, even though it led to heartbreak.

    That said, it’s YOUR day, so if the song is special to you and what you want, then go for it! If you’re worried about people questioning the meaning behind the song, then my only suggestion would be to try and find a track with the music only, no lyrics. It’s a beautiful melody, so you could always dance to musical accompanyment without Garth’s voice included.

    Post # 9
    2813 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    My SO and I have decided that we will have a 4 part first dance where it starts as a cheesy prom song into a traditional Peruvian wedding dance to a salsa and finally a bit thriller at the end. I say do what you want! Remember you’re shelling out money to have fun!!

    Post # 10
    194 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2015


    My fiance and I have a song that we want to use for our first dance but it’s not your typical first dance song either. It’s a love song but NO ONE knows it or knows the artist singing it. But because it means a lot to us and we love it, we’re going to use it. 🙂

    Post # 11
    450 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I don’t think a first dance song has to be a “love song”. The song my fiance and I chose is far from it (it’s actually a pretty morbid song) But it means so much to me. He used to play it on the guitar (not singing lyrics) over and over again back when I first fell for him to the point where anytime I heard the song on the radio I would always think of him. 

    We do understand it’s not a “love song” so we are thinking of recording him playing it on the guitar with his uncle playing violin and just no vocals and dancing to that. That way no one hears the morbid lyrics and we still get to have our first dance to our song.

    Post # 12
    408 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Pick the song you want!  We had a song all picked out, a song that had meaning to us and everything but wasn’t a “typical” first dance song.  Then we went to a friend’s wedding where they danced to a “non-traditional” song and he didn’t like the vibe of it and wanted to change ours to something more traditional and take dance lessons.  He wasn’t too involved in the planning so I let him have this one and we had a choreographed dance to a Frank Sinatra song all ready to go…the day of the wedding?  We both freaked out and didn’t do the choreographed dance and just sort of swayed to a Frank Sinatra song that didn’t have a lot of meaning to either of us…we both kind of regret not just going with our original song.

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