Mixed ladies and/or biracial kids: Hair Issues

posted 4 years ago in Beauty
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Helper bee

I recommend the book Curly Girl by Lorraine Massey.  There’s a section on how to work with children’s curly hair, particularly for parents who don’t have curly hair.

I have naturally curly hair, and I’ve followed the Curly Girl method for over 5 years.  My hair is under control (for the most part…I mean, we all have bad hair days once in awhile).  I wish the book had been around when I was a kid because I wouldn’t have been tortured so much by other kids calling me “Brillo.”

 

Edit to add:  your daughter is an absolute doll!  Her eyes are so beautiful!

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I have very little to add as I’ve struggled with curly hair myself all my life

But just wanted to say your daughter is gorgeous!!!!!!!!!!!

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Buzzing bee
  • tea
  • 4 years ago

oh she’s adorable! now that i can see her hair, i would advise against hair grease right now. it’ll probably be too heavy for her hair and just leave it weighed down and greasy. definitely not a good look, trust me. that leave-in conditioner i suggested earlier might do the trick to help control the frizz without weighing down her hair.

since she’s almost 2 now, i wouldn’t want to use too much product at the moment. keep an eye on her hair as she gets older, especially as it gets longer. you might not have to do too much except some leave-in conditioner or even a very light olive oil based product . it’s really light and doesn’t weigh my hair down and a little goes a long way.

mixed hair is hard to predict, it can stay that way or the curls could tighten [my curls tightened] but managing it is really all trial and error. it took me almost 28 years to finally get somewhat of an idea of what to do with my hair. and i’m 29. LOL. hopefully your learning curve is lower. waaaay lower.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

She is so cute. I heard a lot of good things about the curly girl method. I would also suggest visiting online resources like CurlyNikki and Naturally Curly. I have pretty thick curly hair and use mostly natural (kitchen) products. Coconut oil and olive oil mostly. It works to keep my hair moisturized, but I haven’t yet eliminated the frizz.

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Buzzing bee
  • tea
  • 4 years ago

@AudzinLuv: no problem! let me know if you need any other suggestions and i’ll do a little research for you. my mom had that same issue with us [she's korean], trying not to do our hair like she did her own. don’t worry, you won’t be doing her hair forever. once she hits about her teenaged years, give or take, she’ll take over and figure out what’s good for her.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m not mixed but I do have long, wavy/curly hair so I know what it’s like to try to find products that do the trick in keeping my hair soft & silky. I have heard of this line you might try, Carol’s Daughter: https://www.carolsdaughter.com/portal.aspx?CN=4EB3A1EC9028. I find leave in conditioner does wonders. Morrocan oil is great too.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

This is one of my favorite blogs: http://beadsbraidsbeyond.blogspot.com/ Do yourself a favor and check it out. Definitely don’t put too much product in her hair. A good moisturizer/leave-in is all you need to keep frizz in check.

As a black woman with natural hair, using a brush is a no-no. It just promotes frizz. I’d also recommending checking out haircare and styling videos on YouTube. Those are a great help.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh man, she is adorable! I am biracial and would NOT recommend grease or oil in her hair – her texture does not need those heavy kinds of things. Condition her hair every time you wash it and style it with clear gel. And always tell her that her hair is beautiful! Otherwise she might develop a complex like I did when I was little. :)

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Buzzing bee
  • tea
  • 4 years ago

@Masala: oh that’s a good one. my older sister tells her daughters that everytime she does their hair. its made such a positive impact.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t have much to share from the great advice that’s been shared already, but just to reinforce the importance of keeping her hair conditioned, not using a lot of heavy products, and telling her that her hair is beautiful just the way it is–curls and all–because it is.  :)   Also, depending on her hair texture, you may not need to wash it every day, so the hair can maintain it’s natural oils and naturally won’t be as frizzy.  A lot of hair care is trial and error. You’ll learn so much as you go.  And your daughter is so beautiful by the way!

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