Post # 1
Hey Hive! This is my first post but I felt I needed some input from some other brides out there. I had a little disagreement with my mom tonight and wanted everyone’s opinion. I have asked both my younger (and only) sister and my best friend of 14 years (from college) to be Matrons of Honor. My mom asked me tonight how i would be dividing the responsibilities among them because she feels it is inappropriate to have 2 MOHs and that my sister is hurt by it. My sister and I are not extremely close and it is my best friend that I call first with any exciting news (she was the first to know I got engaged). My sister will stand directly beside me during the ceremony but other than that, i have not though about delegating responsibilities. My sister is planning my entire shower, as my BF lives 3 hours away with a newborn. How should I divide responsibilities/honors among them to make my mom happy? I know people have 2 MOHs all the time and I can’t possibly demote my BF to BM at this point. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated! Thanks ladies!
Post # 3
I was in a wedding that had 2 – and there really wasn’t any planned out delegations. One threw a shower (because she really wanted to) the other was more artsy and helped with decorations and research – etc. I dont think you need or should have to write out a list of what you’re going to delegate. As you need things it will happen on its own.
Post # 4
I didn’t even elect to have my sisters in my wedding for the reason you described… I love them, but they’re not the closest people to me. And since I have three sisters and wanted a small wedding party, I chose not to have them at all.
BUT, I do have two MOH’s. 🙂 They’re just working together on things. One is here in CA with me, the other is in the Midwest where I grew up. They’ll each plan separate showers… But, I don’t think there is really much to delgate. I just like having both of them. It lets me spread out my wedding obsessing between two people! 🙂
Post # 5
sonj818…. I wish my mom felt the way you and I both do!
Post # 6
Dude, I would just let your two MOHs communicate about what responsibilites they’d each like to handle. Who knows, this could be a great opportunity for them each to do what they like/not get stuck doing a task they dislike. They’re both mature adults, right? Your mom shouldn’t even be involved.