Post # 1
SO my BM and MOH are all wearing different sahdes of purple/fushcia. My mom LOVES purple but I guess it isn’t really okay for her to wear the same color as the BM’s even in a different shade right? Or wrong? She was thinking of a silver/gray but now isn’t liking that too much and now the MOG who couldn’t care less about fashion or dressing up, etc. is wearing taupe. So what do you think? My mom can’t wear the same as the groom’s mom correct? Can she wear a COLOR or does that clash? I was thinking a nice blue maybe? I’m not really one for following rules but I do want things to look nice of course. What are you all doing?
Post # 3
@StarIzInkd: You’ll probably get different opinions on this, but in my opinion the two mothers can wear whatever they want. I think your mother should wear purple if she loves it. It’ll be a different style and a different shade, no one will confuse her with a bridesmaid. She can also wear the same colour as the MOG if she wants.
Post # 4
@aussiemum1248: See…. I LOVE your opinion lol.. mostly because it’s what I want to hear. SO I am totally going to take that into account and also see what else I get.
Also, I see nothing wrong with my mother wearing a beautiful, elegant black gown. I did not mention it but my mother in law had commented on someone wearing balck and how disrespectful it was.. so I have HER opinionw ithout even asking. I hate how I want to please her so much but I love my mom so much and want her to look amazing and wear whatever SHE wants (as long as I like it too lol)
Post # 5
Yeah, I think you’re way overthinking it. It’s fine if they wear the same color as the BMs, as each other, whatever. As long as they know the BMs are that color and they don’t care, don’t worry about it. : )
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
It is no longer considered “disrspectful” for black to be worn at a wedding. And as far as your mom “matching” the bridal party…. Who cares? you might have one photo of her with the girls, and that’s probably not the one you’re going to frame, so it’ll be fine. 🙂
Post # 7
Your Mom can wear any color she wants. If your FMIL makes any more comments about your Mom possibly wearing black, she may need to be reminded that the groom’s Mom traditionally waited for the bride’s Mom to get her dress first.
Post # 8
I agree with PPs – your mother can wear whatever she wants. It doesn’t matter if it’s a similar colour to the bridesmaids’ dresses, it doesn’t matter if it’s a similar colour to the mother of the groom’s dress, and it doesn’t matter if it’s black.
Post # 9
@julies1949: I think she knows that she’s supposed to wait because she keeps asking me what oclor my mom is wearing. She is pretty set on taupe for herself but I’m sure that COULD change. SHe’s very difficult though. She isn’t the nicest usually and I don’t want to hear her comment on if my mom wears black how its disrespectful (mind u I am my mother’s pride, joy and love of her life and she would NEVER do anything to disrespect me!)… it’s like this weird fine line. I want my mom to be happy most of all but I also don’t want my FMIL having anything to say.
I don’t do well with rules haha. But you guys are all telling me totally opposite of what I was thinking was ok. I LOVE it. Thank you.
Post # 10
If she wants to wear purple, I’d check and make sure it is not the same as the bm or moh dresses and a different style, as long as she doesn’t look like she’s one of them she would look good I think
Post # 11
My mom’s actually renting a green dress! There is no green in my “wedding colors” and I am totally cool with that. It’s a really cute pencil dress, apparently she looks fab in it.
My FMIL (who also doesn’t care about fashion) is wearing a green ruffled satin sweater thing with a black skirt, black tights, and black shoes. It’s not a very exciting outfit but she seems to like it, so OK.
The BMs are all wearing black. I am fine with my FMIL wearing black (what she WANTED to wear an pale pink or off-white, I was like NO), and I really don’t think she’s going to look like a bridesmaid!
I think if your mom wants to wear purple, then she should! As long as it’s not the exact same dress as the bridesmaids, it will look like a MOB dress.
I see that you’re in NYC?
Why not make an appointment and check out Rent the Runway with your mom?
That’s what my mom did – she had fun trying on the dresses, the girls there were really helpful, PLUS she gets to wear a designer dress for a really good price (it retails at $1,500!)
There’s a bunch of purple dress that are not only MOB appropriate, but flat out FABULOUS.
Post # 12
your mom counld definitely wear a plum color or maybe a slate/ charocoal with purple undertones?
my bridesmaid color was a bright malibu and my mom wore a cobalt, royal blue colored dress because she loves blue. MIL wore a taupe dress and i had no say in what either wore, i let them decide what they liked and what they were comfortable in!
Post # 13
My color is royal blue. My bridesmaid dresses are royal blue and black. My mom is wearing a royal blue top with a black skirt. I really don’t care that the colors are similar as they are completely different dresses.
Post # 14
@CakeyP: They have a store to try on!? I had no clue. Thank you. I will definitely look into this.