MOB dress color VS BM's dress color…

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
7055 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@StarIzInkd: You’ll probably get different opinions on this, but in my opinion the two mothers can wear whatever they want. I think your mother should wear purple if she loves it. It’ll be a different style and a different shade, no one will confuse her with a bridesmaid. She can also wear the same colour as the MOG if she wants.

Post # 5
3787 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yeah, I think you’re way overthinking it. It’s fine if they wear the same color as the BMs, as each other, whatever. As long as they know the BMs are that color and they don’t care, don’t worry about it. : )

Post # 6
4163 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

It is no longer considered “disrspectful” for black to be worn at a wedding. And as far as your mom “matching” the bridal party…. Who cares? you might have one photo of her with the girls, and that’s probably not the one you’re going to frame, so it’ll be fine. 🙂

Post # 7
42166 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Your Mom can wear any color she wants. If your FMIL makes any more comments about your Mom possibly wearing black, she may need to be reminded that the groom’s Mom traditionally waited for the bride’s Mom to get her dress first.


Post # 8
918 posts
Busy bee

I agree with PPs – your mother can wear whatever she wants.  It doesn’t matter if it’s a similar colour to the bridesmaids’ dresses, it doesn’t matter if it’s a similar colour to the mother of the groom’s dress, and it doesn’t matter if it’s black.

Post # 10
306 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

If she wants to wear purple, I’d check and make sure it is not the same as the bm or moh dresses and a different style, as long as she doesn’t look like she’s one of them she would  look good I think

Post # 11
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My mom’s actually renting a green dress! There is no green in my “wedding colors” and I am totally cool with that. It’s a really cute pencil dress, apparently she looks fab in it.
My FMIL (who also doesn’t care about fashion) is wearing a green ruffled satin sweater thing with a black skirt, black tights, and black shoes. It’s not a very exciting outfit but she seems to like it, so OK.
The BMs are all wearing black. I am fine with my FMIL wearing black (what she WANTED to wear an pale pink or off-white, I was like NO), and I really don’t think she’s going to look like a bridesmaid!

I think if your mom wants to wear purple, then she should! As long as it’s not the exact same dress as the bridesmaids, it will look like a MOB dress.

I see that you’re in NYC?
Why not make an appointment and check out Rent the Runway with your mom?
That’s what my mom did – she had fun trying on the dresses, the girls there were really helpful, PLUS she gets to wear a designer dress for a really good price (it retails at $1,500!)
There’s a bunch of purple dress that are not only MOB appropriate, but flat out FABULOUS.

Post # 12
1106 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

your mom counld definitely wear a plum color or maybe a slate/ charocoal with purple undertones?

my bridesmaid color was a bright malibu and my mom wore a cobalt, royal blue colored dress because she loves blue. MIL wore a taupe dress and i had no say in what either wore, i let them decide what they liked and what they were comfortable in!

Post # 13
2800 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My color is royal blue.  My bridesmaid dresses are royal blue and black.  My mom is wearing a royal blue top with a black skirt.   I really don’t care that the colors are similar as they are completely different dresses. 

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