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My mother is having a similar problem. She is plus sized, so the selection has been sadly limited. Her favorite dress she has found is navy and comes is no other color.
I'm doing black and white as well, and my bridesmaids are in black and she thinks the colors clash. Personally, I don't. If you look beautiful in the dress and you love it, then wear it. Who cares what color it is?
If you love the navy dress then get it. It does not have to be the same color as what the bride picks out as her colors. And most mother of the bride/groom dresses that are worn in real life are not matchy-matchy. Don't wear a short dress if you are that uncomfortable in it.
zippylef - Are you my daughter writing under a pseudonym?
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Ember78 - Thank you for sharing another daughter's opinion. Mothers really just want the day to be so special for their daughters.
My daughter says the same as you but I guess I just felt that it really made a difference for her on this very special day. In retrospect - my mother could have been wearing a gunny sack. I was just so thrilled to share the day with my parents, new family and friends.
I think you should also wear what you love. The only pictures you'll be in will be with your daughter & SIL anyway,unless she does a few including all the bridal party with parents in them.
My daughter's weddings were both this past year. In one,the wedding colors were black,white & fuschia (I wore black & white....more of a coincidence than a plan),and the other wedding colors were turquoise,ivory and silver (and I wore brown,MOG wore raspberry).
My brown dress was a modified shutter....be forewarned...there were THREE of them at my daughter's wedding last week. Short dresses,but one in grey,one in teal and one in silver...pretty popular style,that flatters lots of body types! I'd also bought 2 other dresses,so I almost wish I'd worn one of the others.
My mom is plus size and it is SO hard to find dresses. She found a dress (that is Navy as well...must be this seasons color!) and it looks AMAZING on her. I mean...she felt great in it and looked great too. Our wedding colors are black and apple red...so where does navy fit into the scheme of things? No where...but the fact that she is comfortable, feels good and looks beautiful trumps color scheme.
I say: Get whatever makes you feel beautiful and comfortable.
My mother is on the plus side as well and is having a hard time finding a dress. My colors are white and navy, and she's finding a lot of navy dresses too. She doesn't want to wear navy because my bridesmaids are.
I really like the dress you posted though. You don't have to match the future MIL, wear what you want! I'm sure your daughter doesn't mind at all.
My duaghter just got married. I was in the same situation. her colors were lipstick pink, ivory and black tuxes. the dress I found was navy as well! I did find a long black gown, I took both with me, but ultimately ended up wearing the Nave, that I felt the most comfortable in. My daughter did not care either. and I just told myself the day was not about me, but my beautiful daughter and her fiance. As long as it is a pretty dress ( and it is!) I think it will be fine! Navy is a neutral right? go for it a dn enjoy the day!
For my upcoming wedding, my mom is wearing a soft yellow dress and my FMIL is wearing a deep purple dress. My colors are red and gold. The MOB and FMIL dresses don't need to fit the wedding colors at all - as long as the moms are comfortable, they'll look beautiful with everything else.
Go with the navy dress you love!
Thanks to all. I think I was bit by the wedding bug and had a small case of wedding fever. We all know that it can make one do and think some really "different" things.
@Queen Bee- lol. No. I'm pretty sure I'm not. But it sounds like me and your daughter would get along.
Hi, Just wanted to put it out there that I found my plus-size MOB gown from www.keepmeinstitches.biz They are aka Rowan Bridal in PA/NJ area. The gowns are not street sized, so make sure you get professionally measured, but I was happy with their customer service and the gown is/was well made, and I LOVE/D how I looked!!!
OOoops! The Price was Right too!!! Amazing. :)
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I agree with everyone that the MOB dress does not have to match the wedding colors. And personally, I prefer when it doesn't. It looks too matchy and junior high prom when EVERYONE is in the same color.
That being said, you could always contact a tailor about having the dress dyed. If you would rather have it in black, that's pretty much the easiest color to dye.
I also think that you should just wear the dress if you like it - I actually think that the long dress you chose looks a lot more formal than the MOG dress. I think Navy will actually co-ordinate well with the wedding colors without being too "matchy"
Ms Mini - you are so right and that was one of the things that just kept going round and round in my head. My daughter would have preferred that the MOG wear a long gown but that just isn't her style and I respect that.
Thanks to everyone!
My decision has been made - not much time to change since the wedding is in 11 1/5 days! But who is counting? 
I will be wearing my navy gown. It has the shudder pleats that tie it to the MOG dress, it compliments the black bridesmaids dresses and the purple MOG dress and I look amazing in Navy! As a blue-eyed blonde/grey mom, it is really a good color on me.
Thanks ladies - I knew from all of the posts when I hovered but didn't join, that this was a remarkable place. I only wish I would have joined sooner.
Queen--Where is that navy blue dress from? (the first one) I want my mom to try that one on! :)
I don't see any reason the MOB can't wear Navy. Your dress doesn't have to match the wedding. I would just be careful not to clash (i.e. don't choose a pink polka dot dress). Navy is ALWAYS acceptable for MOB. =) That dress is gorgeous, too! Go for it!
What about a black long dress with a purple sash or accent altered onto it? I think you should stick with a long gown because you're the MOB and that's a big deal and you'll look more formal and gorgeous!
I don't see any reason why you couldn't wear that dress if you love it and feel good in it! It doesn't have to match the other Mother or the bridesmaid dresses, because you likely won't be in pictures together.
I told my mom and Mike's mom to get "something pastel". Mike's Mom bought a long, heavily beaded royal blue dress. My Mom bought a short, metallic silver dress. At first I sarcastically thought "way to follow the rules" but in the end it didn't matter at all. They both looked good and liked how they looked, and it didn't matter for pictures because they weren't in any together, or with the bridesmaids.
My colors are black/white/purple/blue (think bruise :-)
My mom is plus sized and my FMIL is essentially an older clone of victoria Beckham. My mom is wearing a peacock bluish dress that is long, and my FMIL will most likely end up in a knee length dress.
All I want is for them both to be happy. THEY don't need to match. They don't even need to match "us."
In my opinion the MOB should be the one who decides if the dress should be long or short and pick the color the SHE wants. Then the MOG follows suit. I think that if you love the dress and you feel comfortable in it, then thats the one you should go with! I think the dress looks great and looks more elegant than the shorter one. Too if its a black and white wedding you can choose pretty much whatever color you'd like, I think Navy is beautiful!!
I think the MOB should wear what she feels most comfortable in, it doesnt have to be matchy matchy.
My mom almost picked a teal dress, my colors are ivory, chocolate, and orange - She looked so beautiful and felt fantastic in it, i wouldn't of cared at all if she picked it! She ended up finding a gold dress she liked 1000 times more, but if she went with the teal, i would've been just as thrilled because of the look on her face when she was wearing it in the shop.
MOG is a plus sized woman...she has said she's wearing a white dress. I guess I'll find out on the wedding day!
my wedding is dark purple, black, gray/silver and white, and my mom found a dress that she loves and that makes her look wonderful in brown. while it might "clash" with the colors of my wedding, i really don't care because she feels great in it. i just want her to be happy.
beachbrideamy - I sent you a pm. The gown is by Tadashi Shoji. I happened to find mine at Bloomingdale's. It had been reduced and was on a special additional 30% rack and I got another 10% and minus $50 if I opened a Bloomingdale's account. Out the door - a steal!
Thank you lovely bee brides! I NEVER would have ever thought that I would be a plus size MOB but alas... I have found myself in that position. I so wanted my daughter's pictures to have me lookjng like I did 34 years ago when I met her dad. Oh well - he doesn't look the same either - he had hair! You have all just made an older, heavier lady feel better about herself. 
For others that have asked -
My gown is by Tadashi Shoji. AND I have to add it must be kissmet. I bought the gown because it was a "to die for" sale. There has been nothing that has made me smile more.
I think that the navy dress will look great with the purple, black, and white.
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The colors for my daughter's wedding are black/white with a touch of purple at the reception. Bless her heart, she told me I could wear whatever I wanted. She is getting married at 5:30 PM with a dinner reception to follow. We went looking for a dress for me and I fell in love with this one:
It is absolutely everything that I would look for in a gown....great structure and lines, elegant but not too out there.... Unfortunately - it is Navy. My daughter doesn't care what I wear - she just wants me to be comfortable.
Her future MIL picked out a dress similar to this one before I selected mine -
It is purple and she is much smaller than I and looks amazing in this.
It so happens that we both selected the shutter style dress, which is a plus; however, she doesn't like long dresses and I don't like the shorter ones ( I just don't have the figure). I could switch and go black but I don't want to look like one of her bridesmaids (they're in black). Or should I keep looking and try to find something purple?
I haven't worn a short skirt in a long time and I am so self conscience about how they look. Is it a bad thing to be in a color not even close to anything in the wedding? I think I'm answering my own question but Any suggestions?