Post # 1
The colors for my daughter’s wedding are black/white with a touch of purple at the reception. Bless her heart, she told me I could wear whatever I wanted. She is getting married at 5:30 PM with a dinner reception to follow. We went looking for a dress for me and I fell in love with this one:
It is absolutely everything that I would look for in a gown….great structure and lines, elegant but not too out there…. Unfortunately – it is Navy. My daughter doesn’t care what I wear – she just wants me to be comfortable.
Her future Mother-In-Law picked out a dress similar to this one before I selected mine –
It is purple and she is much smaller than I and looks amazing in this.
It so happens that we both selected the shutter style dress, which is a plus; however, she doesn’t like long dresses and I don’t like the shorter ones ( I just don’t have the figure). I could switch and go black but I don’t want to look like one of her bridesmaids (they’re in black). Or should I keep looking and try to find something purple?
I haven’t worn a short skirt in a long time and I am so self conscience about how they look. Is it a bad thing to be in a color not even close to anything in the wedding? I think I’m answering my own question but Any suggestions?
Post # 3
My mother is having a similar problem. She is plus sized, so the selection has been sadly limited. Her favorite dress she has found is navy and comes is no other color.
I’m doing black and white as well, and my bridesmaids are in black and she thinks the colors clash. Personally, I don’t. If you look beautiful in the dress and you love it, then wear it. Who cares what color it is?
Post # 4
If you love the navy dress then get it. It does not have to be the same color as what the bride picks out as her colors. And most mother of the bride/groom dresses that are worn in real life are not matchy-matchy. Don’t wear a short dress if you are that uncomfortable in it.
Post # 5
zippylef – Are you my daughter writing under a pseudonym?
Ember78 – Thank you for sharing another daughter’s opinion. Mothers really just want the day to be so special for their daughters.
My daughter says the same as you but I guess I just felt that it really made a difference for her on this very special day. In retrospect – my mother could have been wearing a gunny sack. I was just so thrilled to share the day with my parents, new family and friends.
Post # 6
I think you should also wear what you love. The only pictures you’ll be in will be with your daughter & SIL anyway,unless she does a few including all the bridal party with parents in them.
My daughter’s weddings were both this past year. In one,the wedding colors were black,white & fuschia (I wore black & white….more of a coincidence than a plan),and the other wedding colors were turquoise,ivory and silver (and I wore brown,MOG wore raspberry).
My brown dress was a modified shutter….be forewarned…there were THREE of them at my daughter’s wedding last week. Short dresses,but one in grey,one in teal and one in silver…pretty popular style,that flatters lots of body types! I’d also bought 2 other dresses,so I almost wish I’d worn one of the others.
Post # 7
My mom is plus size and it is SO hard to find dresses. She found a dress (that is Navy as well…must be this seasons color!) and it looks AMAZING on her. I mean…she felt great in it and looked great too. Our wedding colors are black and apple red…so where does navy fit into the scheme of things? No where…but the fact that she is comfortable, feels good and looks beautiful trumps color scheme.
I say: Get whatever makes you feel beautiful and comfortable.
Post # 8
My mother is on the plus side as well and is having a hard time finding a dress. My colors are white and navy, and she’s finding a lot of navy dresses too. She doesn’t want to wear navy because my bridesmaids are.
I really like the dress you posted though. You don’t have to match the future Mother-In-Law, wear what you want! I’m sure your daughter doesn’t mind at all.
Post # 9
My duaghter just got married. I was in the same situation. her colors were lipstick pink, ivory and black tuxes. the dress I found was navy as well! I did find a long black gown, I took both with me, but ultimately ended up wearing the Nave, that I felt the most comfortable in. My daughter did not care either. and I just told myself the day was not about me, but my beautiful daughter and her fiance. As long as it is a pretty dress ( and it is!) I think it will be fine! Navy is a neutral right? go for it a dn enjoy the day!
Post # 10
For my upcoming wedding, my mom is wearing a soft yellow dress and my Future Mother-In-Law is wearing a deep purple dress. My colors are red and gold. The MOB and Future Mother-In-Law dresses don’t need to fit the wedding colors at all – as long as the moms are comfortable, they’ll look beautiful with everything else.
Go with the navy dress you love!
Post # 11
Thanks to all. I think I was bit by the wedding bug and had a small case of wedding fever. We all know that it can make one do and think some really “different” things.
Post # 12
@Queen Bee- lol. No. I’m pretty sure I’m not. But it sounds like me and your daughter would get along.
Post # 13
Hi, Just wanted to put it out there that I found my plus-size MOB gown from http://www.keepmeinstitches.biz They are aka Rowan Bridal in PA/NJ area. The gowns are not street sized, so make sure you get professionally measured, but I was happy with their customer service and the gown is/was well made, and I LOVE/D how I looked!!!
Post # 14
OOoops! The Price was Right too!!! Amazing. 🙂
Post # 15
I agree with everyone that the MOB dress does not have to match the wedding colors. And personally, I prefer when it doesn’t. It looks too matchy and junior high prom when EVERYONE is in the same color.
That being said, you could always contact a tailor about having the dress dyed. If you would rather have it in black, that’s pretty much the easiest color to dye.
Post # 16
I also think that you should just wear the dress if you like it – I actually think that the long dress you chose looks a lot more formal than the MOG dress. I think Navy will actually co-ordinate well with the wedding colors without being too “matchy”