Post # 1
So my mom went shopping and found a MOB dress this weekend. Great right? Admittedly I didn’t want my mom looking old and frumpy, but I think she might have taken it a little too far in the other direction. I’m not so concerned about my mom “stealing my thunder”, but as soon as I showed people the dress they mentioned that it is coming across that way. What I was mostly concerned about is that the dress she chose has a sheer midriff area. I’m personally not a fan of this on women of any age, but especially not women in their mid-50s. I would never have gone with a Pnina Tornai type dress with any sheerness for myself because I just don’t find it wedding appropriate. I already spoke to her and she isn’t going to be altering the sheer area in any way or adding panels because she likes it and thinks its elegant and insists its not very in your face noticable. Am I over reacting or would you be uncomfortable with your mom wearing this to your wedding? Since she has told me its her dress and she isn’t going to alter it should I just shut up an accept it? Maybe I’m just being lame and am not as fashion forward as I thought? Attached are pictures of the dress (the color of hers is darker and makes the sheer bodice a little more noticable). My mom has a pretty nice body, but she still looks like a mom and not like the young model.
Post # 4
@MsLabRat: Sheer in the front *and* strapless?? I would not be happy with that, nice body or not. If the dress had straps, were not sheer in the bodice, and had a nice matching jacket, it would be fine.
Post # 5
@MsLabRat: Oh lawd, i can’t believe your mom thinks this is acceptable. I would be like um NO mom you can not wear a sex kitten dress…..and its flippin see through in the corset area.
I would tell her politely it is not what you imagined your classy, mature, gorgeous mother to be in and send her other suggestions.
Post # 6
@MsLabRat: I think the dress is inappropriate for a wedding whether worn by the MOB or anyone else.
Post # 7
Personally, I am not a fan of sheer at a wedding. It would bother me my mom wanted to wear a dress like that- and it has nothing to do with age! I would be annoyed if my BMs wanted wear something like that. That being said, you told her how you feel and she has decided to wear it anyway so I would advise you to try and get over it.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Oh lordy. When I read the title of your thread, I answered “Yes!” in myhead because let’s face it, people usually are overreacting on this site.
But ehhhhh, I think a tight strapless sheer-torsoed dress is definitely a little…. “t-word” for a 50-something mother of the bride. It looks like lingerie. I am also not a fan of those sheer Pnina dresses, FWIW.
Not sure what advice to give you, but yeah, it’s a little out there.
Post # 9
I don’t think the sheerness is the worst part of it, but rather how young it looks for someone her age. It really looks more like a Prom dress.
Post # 10
Oh god…no. Just no. I don’t care how old you are, or if you’re the MOB or anything else, that is not appropriate at a wedding!
Post # 11
@MsLabRat: If it wasn’t sheer in the middle it would be fine, but that kills it for me!
Post # 12
@MsLabRat: Its inappropriate and ridiculous. I think a MOB who chooses to wear this will only succeeed in making herself look needy and insecure.
Post # 13
@Astra: The strapless looks nice on her and I don’t have a problem with this. She is pairing it with a sheer embroidered shawl so the arms will be sheerly covered a bit.
Post # 14
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@MsLabRat: OMG any chance you can suggest she line that sheer part without offending her. I also agree with PP that if it came with a jacket it would be MUCH better.
Anybody else think that models boobs look pinched in that thing?!
Post # 15
I think I’m too old for sheer anything, and I’m 33 and very toned.
I usually think people are overreacting, but I can’t lie, I wouldn’t be happy if anybody I knew was wearing that at my wedding (though mine is in a church, I don’t know if yours is) regardless of age and how awesome their bod was. Actually, I can’t think of anywhere I know that’s really appropriate for that dress. (Prom?)
The dress would be pretty if not for the sheer bit. Hopefully you can reason her into getting some panels made for it.
Post # 16
I would feel the same way if I were in your position. I’m not a fan of anyone showing their midriff for a wedding honestly, especially the MOB. Also, the top boobage area is showing off a lot. It’s pretty, in general, but not appropriate.