Post # 1
First off, this is NOT an attack on my mother – but I do need some help with her.
She CANNOT find a dress for my wedding that is in June! I’m starting to feel really bad because every dress she puts on she gets more and more discouraged. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
My colors are chocolate brown and Tiffany blue. The bridesmaid’s dresses are brown which means that hers should be blue, right? She looks beautiful in blue, but she has no confidence in herself. My mother is a size 16 and she doesn’t feel proud of herself. She has never had any type of “beauty” work done (hair, makeup, etc.) and won’t branch out for the wedding. She is a pretty woman, but years of hard work and stress as caused her to look much older than she is. How do I convince her she IS pretty and can be beautiful no matter her size?
My mother is looking for a dress that hides the “humps and bumps” as she calls them and is under $200.00. She is looking for something she can order or find the in the mall (such as Dillard’s, Nordstrom’s, etc). She ordered a dress and jacket set, but didn’t care for it. I think what she really wants is a short-sleeve dress with some sort of detail. It’s an evening wedding, so the dress should be floor length, but the wedding is outside. Where do we start looking?
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Post # 3
First of all, I don’t think that your mom really needs to wear blue unless you feel strongly that she should. She’s not a bridesmaid – she doesn’t have to stay within the color scheme as long as she doesn’t clash with it.
Maybe she would be more comfortable in a nice two piece set – skirt and a fancy top? Nordstrom generally has a nice selection in the store. I don’t see much on their website right now, but perhaps something like this? You might be able to find something in blue; she could wear it with a long black skirt. But if she is really having trouble finding any outfit she likes, I would concentrate more on just finding something and forget about the color right now. There are lots of colors that would look fine with BMs in brown – even this burgundy would look fine. Silver or taupe could also be good. You could put her and the MOG in similar colors, or match your dad’s vest to your mom’s dress.
Post # 4
I’m having similar issues! You’re not alone… I don’t have any help, unfortunately… but good luck!
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i agree with suzanno- your mom should be able to go with any color- that will open up her options more, as well. And as far as lumps and bumps, introduce her to the Spanx revolution. Viva la Spanx!
Post # 7
I’m thirding suzanno and beesknees. Your mom should pick something she likes and feels comfortable in regardless of color. Also, even though it’s an evening wedding, your mom is not exempt from pants suits. Some of them have tops with lovely beading that can make them just as formal as a floor-length gown with less detail.
You say she’s not interested in having any type of beauty treatment done for the wedding? Are you having your make-up/nails/hair done? You could ask your mom if she’d go with you for one (two or all!) of these. Tell her it’d mean a lot to you to do this together!
Post # 8
Do you have a Dress Barn Woman in your area? My mother is a curvier lady too and she loves shopping there. She always comes out with something she feels and looks great in and their prices are usually under $100.
Post # 9
I agree with everyone whose already said that there’s no need to color match… my main color is brown with accents of burgundy, goldenrod & aubergine… my FMIL would like to wear coffee and I’m hoping my mom will do burgundy, but I told them both that it’s up to them and as long as they’re not matching my BMs, it’s all good =)
Post # 10
my mother is the same size, until it comes to dresses. she ordered one, I think it was MOn CHeri (not sure if this is right) or something. less than 200. the problem is, when you buy a dress, your size goes up a great deal (16 becomes 24), and its hard to find dresses in that size. Nordstrom online is a great place to start. Also, Jordan Fashions Caterina collection has lots of jackets to go with the dresses. I think you shoudl convince her to go to a bridal store to get a dress. The advantage of those is they are much better made than things you’ll find in a store, they measure you and can tailor something to fit better, and lots of dresses have boning which really helps with the "humps and bumps". Retail stores dresses hardly ever fit the way they should. She will most likely be more comfortable in something sized to fit her. Also, as everyone else said, she doesn’t have to wear blue. She should stick in the same color family, like navy blue, slate blue, taupe, champagne, etc. as long as she is not in bright yellow or orange, she’ll be fine! And spanx are amazing!!!
Post # 11
A size 16 really isn’t that big…she can still shop in average sized stores, as well as plus sized stores. And I agree…don’t limit her to a color..it doesn’t look good when things are that matchy matchy and if you really want her to be beautiful and happy then the color of the dress won’t matter. My mom is a true plus size and she’s having some trouble too b/c she hates pastels and that’s all that is in the stores these days.
I think this dress would be a good option…it’s blue, it’s elegant, I think it would hide a ton of bumps, and is less then 200, and comes in sizes 16-18 http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2978712/0~2376776~2374327~2374331~6014133?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=6014133&P=1
Post # 12
I think this may have already been said, but…
- MOB does not wear your wedding colors, she should wear a complementry color (then the FMIL wears a dress that matches or complements the MOH).
- Size 16 is not that big — two of my bridesmaids are size 16 and found dresses at David’s Bridal for the wedding and at Macy’s for the rehearsal dinner.
- Be patient with her — she is stressed because she wants to look lovely on your wedding day.
My mom is going through a similar problem. I’m having an august wedding and she won’t even look at dresses now because she is on a diet and swears she will be down into a 14 or a 12 by the time the wedding is here. I can tell that it is more about wanting to look beatiful for me than for her – she wants my pictures to be perfect with her in them.
Post # 13
addendum… I meant MOB (not MOH)!
Post # 14
our wedding is in june & my mom hasnt started looking either, bc she just started a huge diet change for health reasons & is loosing pretty quickly. shes a 16 & there are a lot of cute bm dresses at davids bridal that would work as a MOB dress. maybe your mom can get a sleeveless dress and wear it with a pashmina or wrap.
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Have your mom try http://www.coldwatercreek.com they have some really nice things and she could locate a store in your area.