(Closed) MOB is a Negative Nancy – LONG

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
1172 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@MsBlackberry:  So sorry your going through this. I can understand why your upset. I would keep the details to myself. If she asked why you arent sharing and more excited with her, explain that she seems to be unhappy with any of the choices that you made. You dont need her approval or her negative opinions. 

Im dealing with this with my FMIL. My mom used to be like your mom, but she has mellowed through the years and is very supportive. We had a rough relationship for a couple of years, but its great now with her helping.

Good luck. The other bees will have better advice.

Post # 4
Member
924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My mother was much the same during my first wedding.  Plain and simply – she was jealous and bitter.  The normal emotions a parent usually has towards their children, she has always been totally incapable of.  Nearly 25 years later, and she has got worse. 

I hadn’t even wanted to get married – I was only just 21 and wanted to live with my boyfriend.  I was told by my mother that her and my father would disown me if I did.  I was so desperate for their love that I went along with it…

I was divorced before I was 25.  My mother seperated from my father while I was on honeymoon.  I found out that they had lived together before they married, and my mother was 3 months pregnant with my other brother when they did.  So much for being a ‘good’ catholic…

Anyway, my advice is not to accept a penny from your parents, and do the best on what you have.  That way, no negativity and you don’t have to involve your mother at all.  

Post # 5
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511 posts
Busy bee

I’m so sorry that you’re going through this at one of the most stressful times in your life.  You’ve obviously given her every opportunity to step up and get involved and, for whatever reason, she has CHOSEN not to.  Don’t allow her negative attitude to stop you from enjoying planning for your wedding; it’s your day and you have every right to be happy!

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