(Closed) MOB wants to invite her cousin and aunt to our small wedding

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Stick to your guns. Just keep telling her No. Your guest list is set and younhand picked the most important people in YOUR life. 

Post # 4
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452 posts
Helper bee

@CurlyCue:  Agreed. And given you are marrying this man, I think his feelings about this day are just a smidge more important than Aunt’s & Cousin’s feelings. Tell mom, “as a married couple, we will have a lifetime of difficult decisions and compromises to make, and the first comes with how we start our lives together – our wedding.” 

When aunt and cuz find out its a very small, intimate affair, I think they will understand. If not, too bad.

Post # 5
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4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Just say no. Second cousins/great Aunts are very low on the family invite list, *especially* since you’re having such a small ceremony.

If your Mom keeps bugging, she could always host a party/family reunion a month from now.

Post # 6
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2613 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@honeybee21:  I think you should tell your Mother that even if you were inclined to invite your Aunt and Cousin, a last minute invitation isn’t very appealing.  It screams “B List” and or “afterthought” and isn’t very flattering or charming to the persons being invited.  

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