(Closed) Modern woman becoming Pastor’s wife – dress question

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Should I keep the dress as is or cover up for the church ceremony?
    Keep as is : (29 votes)
    81 %
    Cover up for ceremony : (7 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
    491 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    This dress is perfectly acceptable! It doesn’t have see through sides or anything, and isn’t revealing, you’re fine!!

    Post # 4
    248 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    i think it’s perfectly fine for the church. it’s not too clingy or sexy. i would keep it as is!

    btw, you look wonderful in it!

    Post # 5
    436 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Firstly I think your dress looks beautiful on you 🙂

    Secondly, I think that if you’re going to be wearing your veil as you are in the photo then that would be enough coverage. 

    Have you asked your Fiance his opinion (you could do so without showing him the dress?)

    Post # 6
    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    It depends what type of church you go to. Some pastors wives are more liberal than others. personally the way my church is, I would expect lace sleeves or a bolero from the pastors wife. But again every church is different.

    Post # 7
    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I don’t think your dress is too sexy or anything. And you have a veil covering your shoulders.

    Why don’t you ask you FI’s opinion on strapless dresses at church? I wouldn’t normally wear a strapless dress to a sunday service, but I felt 100% okay in my strapless dress for my wedding.

    Post # 8
    5547 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I think there is a difference in wearing a strapless dress normally to church and your wedding dress. It isn’t like your boobs are hanging out, your dress is skin tight or any portion of your dress is sheer. I don’t think it is not okay for a pastor’s wife to wear. 

    Post # 9
    2142 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Our officiant (and friend) is a pastor of a small Baptist city church in Texas and got married a couple weeks before us, his wife’s dress had a very similar neckline- I think you’re okay!

    However, I agree with PP, checking with your Fiance about church policy.

    Post # 10
    192 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Your dress is gorgeous!

    I think it depends on how conservative the church is. If the congregation is very conservative then yes I would add a little bolero. If they are anything like my church, no one would bat an eye. But we are pretty casual. If you are still nervous about it, I would ask some of the church elders/high ranking people and see what they think. But I think I would leave it.

    Post # 11
    2100 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I think for the ceremony detachable sleeves or a bolero would be nice and then you can remove them for the reception – you do not look sexy or underdressed just maybe better to err on the more modest side given his profession


    Post # 12
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    What rules does the church have? Usually women are required to cover their shoulders in God’s House and that extends to weddings too. You will need to consult with the church staff (a higher ranking pastor typically) to determine if the dress is appropriate or if you need to add something.

    Post # 13
    878 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I come from a conservative family/church. I would say deep plunging necklines/lots of cleavage would be inappropriate and pretty much anything pnina tournai, lol (seethrough panels). I think your dress is gorgeous & nothing to worry about!

    Post # 14
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    i concur 100% with dallasbride2012…. i would ask a few others just for opinion sake but i think its beautiful the way it is

    Post # 15
    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Aks Fiance what the “rules” or guidlines are.

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