- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
I am doing my best here, so please bear with me.
The Fiance and I are shouldering the burden of the entire wedding (sans my dress. My parents wanted to buy it for me and I made sure it was not the most expensive one there, but still be one I would love). The fiance’s family has not offered to do a thing or shown any interest in the wedding.
It was pulling teeth to get the brothers (groomsmen) to come to the rehearsal the night before. I know it seems standard what to do, but let’s run through it a few times.
I know they were unhappy that it is farther away for them (2 hours by car), but it is still an hour for my folks and my family is going to be the ones setting up and tearing down. I thought it was a fair trade.
We have talked several times and I told her what my dress looked like, what the guys are wearing (brown tuxes, soice vest and tie) and what my mother, granny, and the bridesmaids are wearing. I told her she didn’t have to wear a dress. I had said something you would wear to Sunday School or a pretty pantsuit would be fine.
She asks the fiance the other day if she can wear jeans! When has it ever been appropriate to wear jeans to a wedding (unless it is a fun, casual wedding in the summer or something and would be a great fit). Fiance kinda said he didn’t think that would be appropriate. She returned with she didn’t know where to buy any clothers at. What???
We specifically got a photographer (we had originally talked about having a good family friend take pics for us of the important events) who would take some family portraits as neither side had had any with the kids (I’m 31, fiance is 30 and his brothers are 22 and 21).
It’s not a matter of not having money. They are quite well off and are not in debtt. My gut is wondering if this is a type of power play to see if she can “out-do” me.
Honestly hive, I am not asking for much. I would be tickled with a pair of black slacks and a pretty top with flats (she doesn’t like heels) that comes from Walmart. Just no jeans.
We are having the mothers and grandmother seating and I can’t imagine what people would think of Fiance’s family if she rolls in with the clothes she wears to feed horses in.
Am I getting carried away here? All through this process, people have commented on how calm I have been about the whole wedding deal. This one has just set me off!
Is it wrong of me to ask that they dress up a little when the only thing they have to do with this wedding is show up?